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Offline Anonymous

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What makes it so easy for Parents?
« on: June 11, 2006, 04:30:00 PM »
What makes it so easy for parents to give up thier responsibility as a Parent and to send thier child off to a program/school when there is trouble on the horizon..Do you not pay attention to your child?or listen to them?Notice changes in them or who thier friends are?I am a mom of 2 kids a 22yr old and a 15 yr old..I am my childrens best friend..and my now 22 yr old use to be one of the troubled kids..being violent,abusive,controlling you name it she was in that catogory..But not anymore because I stood my ground..I stood beside her..dealt with the root of the problem..and omitted the negitivity in her life and as she matured she realized what once was her so called life was not worth the anger and fight..it never entered my mind to send her off to a program..it was my job to see she made it through her tormented yrs..and I did and I do not regret one min.not to mention I am lucky I came out of it alive..as I was the brundt of all her anger meaning i was the one that she took her anger out on..And I was the one standing beside her and supporting her and I never gave up.And I would be ready to do it agian but Thankfully I see no signs in my 15yr old as of yet..My children know they can come to me about anything and everything and they do..I may not have the solution to thier problems but we communicate openly and honestly..I respect them and they Respect me.So to those parents that are going down the long distructive rd with thier teens...Don't give up on them Please..and please do not send them away to a program..They need you now more than ever..your teaching them that when times get tough to turn away..and Trust me I have wrked in a BMS and I would never want my child to endure the abuse that alot of kids do in these schools..it would sicken you.May Peace with you all going through Turmoil. :smile:
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« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2006, 04:37:00 PM »
For some parents trouble is no longer on the horizon...it's up close and personal.  Every family/child/situation is different.  Try not to judge- it's unbecoming to you.
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« Reply #2 on: June 11, 2006, 04:48:00 PM »
You hit on an important point, and that is that your children respect you. Parents who use programs gave up on their child respecting them, and chose to use fear in order to control their child's behavior. Of course this only works in the short termm, while they are in physical control of the child, and to a certain extent when the child returns home, as they still retain psychological influence based on extreme fear. It's both unhealthy and unproductive and has been proven to be ineffective many years ago.
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« Reply #3 on: June 11, 2006, 04:51:00 PM »
This is absolutely wrong in some cases.
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« Reply #4 on: June 11, 2006, 06:12:00 PM »
How can anyones child respect a parent for basically throwing in the towel through a rough time...Placing a child in  a school/program only creates more distrust and anger and hostility..I saw it over and over when I wrked at the BMS...Oh and to the person that asked me not to be so judgmental...I do not judge anyone and Remember I have been where most parents are now..And it is No Party at the park..it is very heart breaking and hurtful...All I am saying is it is ok to ask for help from anyone..just not the so called Behavioral programs/schools...Hell if your gonna do that than you may as well ask the dog to help your son/daughter thats about how qualified they are in these facilitys.
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« Reply #5 on: June 11, 2006, 06:27:00 PM »
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On 2006-06-11 13:51:00, Anonymous wrote:

"This is absolutely wrong in some cases.  "


Great spin job, interesting form of english you use.
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« Reply #6 on: June 11, 2006, 07:16:00 PM »
I can see where the lady who opened this post is coming from. Having said thhat i dont think that judgement helps either. I feel for the parents of so called "troubled" teen because they have a media and an industry preying on their worst fears. There is a real need for cultural change
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« Reply #7 on: June 11, 2006, 07:17:00 PM »
I didn't say all.  Some parents DON'T care.
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« Reply #8 on: June 25, 2006, 03:30:00 PM »
As far as I am concerned, parents (most parents that is), never give up their responsibility as a parent.  I tried to stand my ground but it didn't work, everything got worse.My son's mental and physical abuse to me (just like his Father did to me).  His Father and I have been divorced since 1992 and he is a "slacker Father", didn't support anything I did, in fact we only communicated by e-mail.  His Father told me to hang in there (his Father at this time was only seeing our son (his choice)) 2-3 hours per week.  My son has never respected me (his Father never did either).  True, some parents don't care (I don't understand this at all), but I do care, and will always care about my son, and be there for him, if he asks for my help.
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« Reply #9 on: June 25, 2006, 03:50:00 PM »
Way to dodge the question...  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:  :roll:
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« Reply #10 on: June 25, 2006, 04:00:00 PM »
You've been divorced since 1992, and are still trying to blame the EX? Get the fuck over it lady. That's about 15 years ago.
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« Reply #11 on: June 25, 2006, 04:04:00 PM »
I'm not blaming the ex for anything.  Just would have been nice and I think better if we could have agreed more on things for our son.  It was the Fathers Russian wife who told our son's Father that she didn't want him in their house anymore, so he instead of standing up to her, he moved our son out of his house completely and our son only saw him on Thursday nights 1-3 hours per week.  Also, how am I dodging the question?
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« Reply #12 on: June 25, 2006, 04:09:00 PM »
Gregg' out of the program; off to summer work; back on pot; and hopefully off to community college. Take you story elsewhere. No time to re-hash your whiny mess.
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« Reply #13 on: June 25, 2006, 04:27:00 PM »
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"Gregg' out of the program; off to summer work; back on pot; and hopefully off to community college. Take you story elsewhere. No time to re-hash your whiny mess.

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« Reply #14 on: June 25, 2006, 04:32:00 PM »
I am not whinning about anything, just stating the truth.  you know who I am, "Anonymous" why won't you reveal to me who you are??
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