Im scared for my son...

[C.Aufbereiter]

Well, I found out my son's been crossdressing, and bisexual. I dont know what to do! I was told by a coworker of mine that there are places I can send him, or have him taken, to get help for this and bring him back down to earth again, but Ive also heard bad things about them.

That, and the prices are very high, but if it comes to whats needed for my children then money is no object.

Does anyone have any advice for me? Im a terribly worried dad and I dont know if this is my fault, or becuase of the divorce... I just dont know.

The worst part of this is that hes apparently ended up online.



I guess if its any consolation he seems to be pretty good at it.

[Anonymous]

If that were my son I would have slapped the crap out of him already. Send this child away today, I know of a good place called Tranquility Bay where they will do what you want and not ask ANY questions. My son went in gay, and ended up killing himself. All in all, a successful program if you ask me.

[C.Aufbereiter]

On 2006-05-02 17:34:00, Anonymous wrote:

"If that were my son I would have slapped the crap out of him already. Send this child away today, I know of a good place called Tranquility Bay where they will do what you want and not ask ANY questions. My son went in gay, and ended up killing himself. All in all, a successful program if you ask me."

I dont want my son dead, I want him better!!

Im so sad that you thought so poorly of your own offspring.

Does Tranquility Bay treat boys like mine? How did he kill himself? Did he run away?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, they'll treat him really good, don't you worry. He will get all the help he needs.  :wink: My boy didn't follow his home contract which included no homosexual activity. He broke it, I disowned him and in a show of defiance he shot himself in the head and left a note that only read "fuck you dad". Little bastard thought he could abuse me one last time, but I don't let it bother me.

[C.Aufbereiter]

On 2006-05-02 17:39:00, Anonymous wrote:

"Yeah, they'll treat him really good, don't you worry. He will get all the help he needs.  :wink: My boy didn't follow his home contract which included no homosexual activity. He broke it, I disowned him and in a show of defiance he shot himself in the head and left a note that only read "fuck you dad". Little bastard thought he could abuse me one last time, but I don't let it bother me."

Im sorry but thats just messed up. Im not out to kill my son, I want grandkids! I want help for him.

Does anyone here know of any programs that offer better suicide prevention?

[Anonymous]

The only way you're getting grandkids is if science manages to give "him" a fully functional vagina.

[Fake Parent Troll]

Well- both of mine were screwed up. Daughter acted "in" and handled her depression by cutting. We were able to treat her locally and a change in school environment helped a lot. She remained successful academically through the whole thing. Son acted "out" and required programs. Lots of their issues arose from our parenting, but not all. It is a tough time to be a teenager, and a tough time to be a parent.
I went to large state U (Indiana), which was out of state for me. I chose it because I was a music major. Well, turned out the music school was too good for MY level of talent! I wound up majoring in business and going to a top law school (Chicago). In retrospect, I did not have enough "like minded peers" at Indiana. I enjoyed many things about my years there, but academically I would have been happier and more challenged at a smaller university or LAC. I did develop a passion for college basketball, which, believe it or not, has served me very well in the business world. (Lesson to all you smart kids out there- don't underestimate things like that.)
My problem is as I tour colleges with kid #2, I love them all. I was the same way with kid #1. All in all, Stanford would be my dream school because of the top academics, athletics, climate and size of the school. I couldn't have gotten in back then, of course.
Karen

[C.Aufbereiter]

Karen, what programs?

I heard of "Love in Action" and then I saw all the protests for abuse... I dont want to hurt my son.

Do you know of any reputable ones?

[Fake Parent Troll]

I mentioned a number of good programs in my post. I have provided names privately to many people who have inquired. I know better than to do so publicly on this forum. Good try, but I'm not taking the bait.
Arguing with you Fornitscators is not that exciting-hate to tell you. It is very tedious and boring. I am here to counter your idiocy.

[C.Aufbereiter]

What are you talking about? I didnt see any programs mentioned! What bait? Do you mean that man who said Tranquilitybay killed his son?

[Fake Parent Troll]

I don't care to name the programs my son attended. I have provided this information privately to posters on the strugglingteens site. I wish to remain anonymous on this site because I have been the target of hateful emails in the past. I also wish to protect the identity of my son.
I will say that I know of at least 6 wilderness programs where there have been no reports of any abuse and both parents and teens felt the programs were life-changing and worth every penny and day spent. Do you think the program in Shouting at the Sky is abusive? I have friends who have placed kids at Cascade in the past (before it went downhill) with great results for the teen and the family. The schools which sprung from Cascade, such as Carlbrook, have been praised by kids and family alike-even on THIS BOARD. I haven't heard anything about abuses at Oakley or Swift River, either.
Why am I here? I didn't even know about this site until Overlordd invaded our board. Having discovered it and how ugly the posters here are in responding to copied posts from the strugglingteens board, I felt that I should respond. When I see false things, I feel as though I should set the record straight for future parents who are doing research. I want to help other families who are facing a similar crisis to what mine faced.
As far as kicking my son out of the house- it was tempting. However, I saw too much potential in him. I chose to send him to a wilderness program and a TBS. I was not always a very good parent. Probably the best thing I have ever done for him was send him to wilderness. It was life-changing for him and for our family.
The problem with many of you regulars on this board is that you won't accept that many of these programs WORK and that what we are reporting is TRUE. That is a display of your immaturity and inability to dig out of your trench.

[C.Aufbereiter]

Karen, thank you.

Would you please send me a private message then? Id like to know where I could find REAL treatment, that is proven to work, for my kids specific problems, if possible. If you dont know, could you point me to where I could find out?

Also, I guess this really is a controvertial issue. Im glad Im checking before sending away.

[Fake Parent Troll]

I predict that within 6 months you will be sending your son to a program. You will not be able to manage him at home, and his drug use will greatly increase. Perhaps wilderness is not the right place due to his sexuality disorder, but there are very good reasons why the kids can only communicate by letter. The family dynamics are usually a big part of the underlying problem, and need to be removed from the equation before progress can be made.

When you are ready to get the help you need, go to this much more informative site.  Struggling Teens

[C.Aufbereiter]

Karen, that link was blocked by websense, what was it?

Im asking for WHAT program to send to, not how long you think it will take me to do so! I dont know who to trust!

By the way, why letter only communication? Whats the purpose of that?

[OverLordd]

... I'm having a hard time telling if your serious or not. Honestly, are you?