I've written about this before but not on this thread.
I went to CEDU RS when the place was pretty tightly run. I was not a tough girl. I remember being horrified by the whole cultic vibe and obviously fucked up practices that occurred at CEDU. What really bothered me of course was being so obviously manipulated and seeing that staff members were dishonest with both myself and my families. I felt like that was very little authentic feeling going on, and after a propheet, I realized I would either have to start lying to get by, because there was no way I was going to make it by being real.
I was not the runaway type. I was a big chicken. But there was no way for me to survive that place, emotionally.
The first time I split, I just left walked down the road, tried to find a phone, and got caught by an off duty cop who did NOT want to return me to the school. She thought it was a nut hole. Because I usually stayed out of trouble, I did not get a full time and the rap following was pretty weak. Of course, CEDU told my parents to call me and tell me they would put me in a lock up if I ran away again. (Looking back this was totally ridiculous as I was not a danger to myself or anyone else, or engaged in any criminal activity, ever. I was a girl who coordinated her outfits for God's sakes!)
After a propheet, I fell into a split contract with someone, but the moment I was asked if I had one, I admitted it. I am incapable of lying to a direct question.
I decided to split myself anyway. A parent visit was coming up, and I would ask to go home. If they wouldn't take me, I'd leave the next day. My Dad was tempted; I could see he thought the place was a little nuts, but my Mom drank the Kool Aid,and the staff coached them well. It was September, so I knew I had to leave soon before it got cold. I knew the most important thing was to make it to San Diego. If I got caught prior, I'd be sent back.
The tricky part was I knew I would not hitchhike. I was too afraid I'd be picked up by some weirdo. But I had a strange feeling I would meet a mother who would help me.
CEDU was in the mountains with a one horse town and derelict camp nearby. There was one road going out so I knew I couldn't go that way.
I layered my clothes, saved the money, hid food, and when everyone left for the big house in the morning, I delayed and left. I took a back way out past the farm and cut through the woods. At one point, I was chased by dogs, but then I befriended them and they followed me a long while from their home. When I got to this scary derelict camp, I tried to pass through as unnoticed as possible as these guys looked like the cast of Deliverence. I hiked up to the town from the back and noticed there was a laundromat with both a back door and a big window that you could see out but not in.
Then, I didn't know what the fuck to do. I just knew I had to make it all the way home. I started to panic, cry, get antsy, contemplate my options, when a mother sat down next to me. I tried to tell a story with as many honest parts as possible but had to lie about why I was stuck there alone and why I needed to get back to my family in San Diego. I was sincerely upset, so she took me at my word.
She said she was going to San Diego for a family reunion in one week. So she made me a deal. I could stay at her house in Running Springs for a week,help her take care of her two kids, and then she'd drive me home. She was a single Mom on welfare who worked a job under the table. Free babysitting while she worked was a bonus, a free ride was my bonus.
So that is what happened. I had to lay low, make excuses why I couldn't go the one market in town, babysit, and hang out with the family. Then I went to her family reunion and went to the beach to meet my friend.
When I got home, I had dinner with my parents. My Mom said I couldn't come home, I had to go back. My Dad followed suit, but I knew they wouldn't send me to lock up.
I called my college friend in San Francisco and said I needed a place to live. We decided I would finish my high school degree and work, and clean the house while I lived there gratis. I had just enough money to make it to SF.
The next night, at another family dinner, I told my folks, your problems are solved. I'm leaving to live on Haight Ashbury (I had no idea what that meant, so Sayanara. When my Dad heard the words "Haight Ashbury" he said NFW! and overrode my Mom's attempts to kick me out of the house.
So, I got myself back in school, became your perfect little honor roll student, did volunteer work, lived very healthily... etc. But I lost a sense of connection and felt disassociated from people after CEDU, and had a very dialectical view of life. And of course, other issues were never addressed at CEDU, and I still needed to deal with those. But who cares, right? As long as I looked good on paper.