Ok then based on you saying that all children are selfish by nature, then why do some kids behave, do well in school and respect their parents and others? Sometimes within the same family group 3 of 4 siblings will follow the rules and 1 won't. Your statement isn't based in reality. It shouldn't be assumed that all children should misbehave, do drugs, skip school, treat their parents and siblings like dirt, and act like the world OWES them something as a rite of passage to adulthood. Yhis shouldnt be accepted behavior. That is not how the world works. There are rules. Rules are to be abided by. People should be treated with respect. Children should do what is asked of them. If children fail to do these things, there are consequences. I am sick of seeing spoiled brats demand things of their parents and throwing temper tantrums when they don't get what they want because the parents wanted to give the children empowerment and control over their own decisions. 5 year olds don't need empowerment. They need structure. They need someone to help them along. Without discipline(not corporal punishment) they turn into what you see in Walmart when they don't get a toy. Parents should be in control, not the children. I love my children more than anything. I show them love every single day. But they know that when I say no, I mean no. Children shouldn't feel as if they run the household. Any parent who allows this is doing their children a huge disservice.
