Anon....
I understand why the reincarnation idea makes sense to some people, therefore will not disagree with you on it. I realize this is your opinion and are entitled to it...but let's just say that in my opinion, I think this is one thing that no human being is capable of knowing whether it exists or not...in my mind....only god can know this....and yeah I have trouble with the higher vibration idea too...(I have researched both these ideas in the past) but that's just my take on it...just so you know where I'm coming from.
BUT I fully agree how important it is to let go of hate (even though I fail often), to fully understanding myself so I can be a better person, taking resposibility for MY actions (NOT others actions), etc. Maybe my question was not clear....let me try to restate it....how can one be both a victim and villian at the same time and moment (while in straight)? Clearly in our lives we can be a victim in one instance then a villian in the next instance, but simultaneously? Maybe I misinterpret pirate's post, which is possible.