Peninsula Village

[Anonymous]

On a completely different note, throwing myself at the first nice, reasonably good looking, single guy, my age I meet doesn't sound like a bad idea.  I'm not picking on you guys with my definition of sexual harassment, get a date for the love of God, is not sexual harassment obviously.  Everyone, actually, says the same thing to me, and I'm talking like a lady here, but my friends at work tell me to jump the first nice guy I see, and they are women and I'm starting to agree with them, any way.  Describing filming a(*&(* sex would be sexual harassment, I'm sorry again to repeat that. But do you get now what he said? it really was as bad as it could be, think of the nastiest thing you could say really? But that is what sexual harassment is, and he used the word, he didn't say “butt” ok he said the word, and he talked about his poor girlfriend in relation to it, and he said he was thinking about getting a concealed carry permit.  I'm not a crazy alarmist, there really is a prison camp in the backwoods of Tennessee and in my nice good college, the above was said to me who doesn't even live on campus, so I’m not even around much to hear it?  That is what sexual harassment is, talk to your daughter about it, she is not blowing things out of proportion.

[nimdA]

Post your stats..... ME love you long time!

 :wink:

Nah for real. I think it would be normal that your perception of some men would be a bit rough. In fairness my perception of some women isn't all that nice either. Considering I've been in and out of a few third world countries and seen some pretty freaky things. This also goes hand in hand with my idea that certain members of my own sex ought to be taken out back and shot also.

Seems to me you are finally getting one foot in front of the other, and that is the most important thing.

Though fo' real.. Me luv you long time.

[Anonymous]

ok fergie fergie, what is that song, they like my lumps or humps or something, what the heck is a lump? I tend to see lumps as a negative when I look in the mirror.  The T.V./media will sexually harass your kids for you to of course. I think it's where a lot of the boys get it.   Susie Wong is a negative stereo type of Asian women to say the least, did you say you live in Korea? :roll:  I'm not a big fan of some women for sure.  People of any kind can be jerks or not.  Unpleasant men just tend to be bigger than me, PV counselors excluded, woman can be threatening in their own ways, I think it depends on what they can do to you?  If they can't fire me and my boyfriend isn't going to sleep with them I don't care.  Girls certainly bully other girls in school, or wherever.  I had this odd girl at work start spreading rumors about me although I barely knew her and had been perfectly nice. I don't know, humans can be unpleasant.  It is good to realize I think so you can choose to be around ones that don't cause you trouble and actually make you happy.

[Anonymous]

I always get one foot in front of the other these days?  It is just a matter of getting along doing two things at once, college and work.  I get good grades and am well into it.  It doesn't help that my family is nuts, I can remember stuff from eleven and twelve that make the Alec Baldwin tape look like a walk in the park. Who are you exactly in relation to Fornits? Are you the moderator or something?

[Anonymous]

Three Springs Waygooking lost their moderating privileges after it was revealed he used to work for a program.

[Anonymous]

thats not true..he has been very upfront and helpful with admitting about what goes on in program...

[Anonymous]

Three Springs Waygooking posted a story about forcing a boy to push a rock with his face in the dirt and thinking it was funny.

The next day his moderating powers were gone.

Draw your own conclusions.

[Anonymous]

Three Springs Waygooking posted a story about forcing a boy to push a rock with his face in the dirt and thinking it was funny.

The next day his moderating powers were gone.

Draw your own conclusions.

Hows about you start a TSW bashing thread then and keep this one on the subject of PV? Maybe we are not free can join you there with her self centered rants that really have very little to do with Peninsula Village.
I don't think we are not free even went to PV. There really is very little indication here that she knows much about the program, and her refusal to get a username is downright sketchy. Maybe ms. we would like to take her bs to another thread as well. Thank you and goodnight.

[Anonymous]

we would like to take her bs to another thread as well.

We?

[Rachael]

The one guy starts telling a story about this guy having sex with a girl in Las Vegas, he was actually moving his pelvis and holding his hands like he, I guess, was holding on to a girls butt from the back, the story went on a little while too it seemed. This guy in Vegas was having sex and the doors in the hotel were a kind of glass that when you touched a button they became misted over but when you touched it again you could see through them, so he keeps touching the door while he is having sex so people can see through it and then can’t.  The final time he does it a security guard was there and he &^%& all over the glass.  I didn’t like this story much or the pelvic thrusts but I just nodded and smiled.  The other guy starts talking about seeing this thing on the internet where this guy tried to have *&^*&* sex with a girl and filmed it, there was &**& everywhere and the camera guy threw up and so did the guy, this story was much longer than the above sentence and very graphic.  I’m sorry to have to repeat this, even with editing but this is a reasonably ordinary form of sexual harassment. He also mention *&^* sex one other times in relation to his girlfriend, in a conversation, that started by talking about the test we had just taken?  This time was unrelated to the above story?  I have not talked to these kids much, and I look really ordinary, like everyone else in class, they were not singling me out.  I am not picking on men, or boys, I know very nice non before mentioned guys.  

Hmm....

First of all, I am a feminist, I am the daughter of a feminist (who is also a professor of women's studies and feminist writing), and I am married to a feminist. Now then:


From what you have described of the situation in the post above, you were not experiencing sexual harassment at that time. The term "harassment" implies repetition of an unwanted act or refusal to desist when requested to do so. It also implies intent.

You described a situation in which you were a passive member of a conversation which wasn't even entirely directed towards you. You described only one instance of the offending comments, and you did not ask them to stop speaking about it - you smiled and nodded. The persons you were engaged in the conversation with had no way of knowing that you were uncomfortable. Albeit, the subject matter was obviously offensive to you, but that in and of itself is not sexual harassment. Inappropriate maybe, harassment - not even close. Two people carrying on a conversation about anal sex (is that what you were implying with your bizarre self-censorship?) with their girlfriends is not in any way harassing you.

Feel free to clarify if there was more to the story than you first described.

 


Rachael

[Rachael]

Arg... double post. Fornits is acting up again.

[Anonymous]

No offense, but you are male, were a counselor and have never been in a program.  What right do you have to tell me, who was in PV for almost two years, how to try to communicate about PV.    
I don't think anyone in the royal "we" here has been in PV.  I certainly have, unfortunately.  Of course discussions of sexual harassment, being financially dependent on an abusive family while finishing school, admitting that your family is in fact abusive and trying to go from there, sexual abuse side effects, protecting oneself from abuse, drugs that places like PV give out that are deadly, the lying stigma PV casts on people to make money, economics young women out of PV and the evil sex industry, I didn’t bring that one up but because of things others said it seemed relevant, sexual prejudice and assault, drinking, what else?  Post traumatic stress, study and job skills, because you won’t have any coming out of PV. Defining why PV is such a horrible farce, maybe that is the aspect "we" don't like.  I don't think I make PV look like anything other than the idiotic hell hole it is.  Oh of course, the education requirements to be a counselor, or more accurately the lack of, Pellissippi State Community College forever.  Told you I had been in PV.  This is what I have encountered since leaving.  I think I am really done though, as I have actually said everything?  Of course discussing Abigail, the19 year olds, sex life with a geezer is so much more relevant, and of course me love you long time? that helps PV kids out a lot.  Can't stop bullying the program kids can you?  For the love of God please don't tell me what you have seen in foreign countries.  
The last thing I will say here, at least for a while, is don't blame yourself, I have tried to prove PV is stupid horrible bull.  Take everything in this world with a grain of salt, very few things can be taken without one.  People should not be so NAIVE, if you were under eighteen you have a right to be naive, but adults should have the sense to read the prescribing information and want to see where their child will live.   I feel a bit trampled on but I'm not guilty. I was fourteen and fifteen, for the love of God, when the things I was supposed to take responsibility for happened and I was being abused horribly on all levels.  Who wants victims of sexual abuse to take responsibility for the abuse? give me a break.  Situations are created by many angles, and all the people involved.  So many situations around you are often negative and will have a bad effect, PV being one of the worst case scenarios.  I really have said my bit, I'm writing to try and do some good, the pen is mightier than the sword they say right?  I hope everyone who was in PV will write something saying how bad it is and what it is like,

[Anonymous]

I nodded and smiled because I felt intimidated.  On the sexual harassment video at work certainly, sexual harassment is when you ask them to stop and they don't and such.  I guess you think extremely graphic sexual discussions, carrying weapons to class and talking about carrying a gun is not intimidating, sexually violent or scary at all?  To get a sexual harassment case to stick they do have to repeat the harassment after you have asked them to stop.  As an example of what I would consider sexual harassment I thought it was a good example.  It was very aggressive pointed at me, I was literally cornered, and even I felt afraid to say something.  It was as graphically sexual as you could get really.  Jokes that make you uncomfortable, do count as sexual harassment, go look it up.  Of course I would ask them to stop and if they continues I would report it.  I was honestly afraid of them some though?  I knew there would be backlash if I said "you should not tell that story to me, I found it intimidating and ugly. please don't again"   It's funny I've noticed this before, when you report sexual harassment or say something about it, often the girls around will defend the guys.  This happened at work when I told a guy I didn't think his joke about pimps and prostitutes, where the punch line was, him pretending to slap me and going, don't talk back to me ho" was appropriate.  The other girl defended him, and said it was a joke, and was rather rude afterwards.  They palled around a lot.
I think you are being naive, and you should learn to translate life more accurately.  In high school when I reported the daily extreme sexual harassment that I asked them repeatedly to stop, I was tormented by the girls in the school for the rest of the year.  The guys were popular.  Some people will do anything for acceptance.  You get a lot of crap when you speak out.  I think you are a bit of a fool.  :roll:

[Anonymous]

Rachel I read some of your other posts and you sound a bit like me.  Angry talkative and out of a prison camp.  you said you wanted to help inform people.  I think that's what I'm trying to do.  I have some problems with sexual abuse and such.  It makes me unfriendly toward men who tell graphic sexual jokes. It is a bit cathartic to actually get to talk about this stuff to in a place I'm not afraid of being beaten up literally.  I really do think I've said my piece, though.  I'm telling you the whole A*&^ conversation was over the top, I doubt you would have liked it much either.  If I was a kid who lived on campus with the two guys, who didn't know to say something or intimidated, it would have continued forever and probably gotten worse.  I know cause I was and it did, when it starts of like that it isn't going to get better.

[Anonymous]

Three Springs Waygooking posted a story about forcing a boy to push a rock with his face in the dirt and thinking it was funny.

The next day his moderating powers were gone.

Draw your own conclusions.

Hello loser, but obviously you weren't around for when he gave up his powers, because he didn't feel comfortable having them. He came out about the whole rock pushing thing when he first posted on fornits. His moderation powers are still active for the Question and Answer forum.

At least try to spin a better thread of bs when you slander someone.