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« Reply #30 on: June 01, 2005, 11:54:00 PM »
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And for reminding me of one of my Mom's most-oft cited sayings... "this too shall pass".  There is hope. Those are invaluable thoughts right about now.



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What a great gift. Pieper.  Thank you (having just got off the phone with one twin who is expecting her 2nd high risk child and is frantic in a 800-sq.ft. house),  To our children, we need to say, "This too shall pass"...and it will. >
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« Reply #31 on: June 02, 2005, 05:20:00 PM »
No problem, Pieper.  Thanks for reading everything with an open mind.  Your daughter is lucky that you genuinely care.
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« Reply #32 on: June 02, 2005, 10:08:00 PM »
Pieper, just one more thought. I wonder if schooling (not synonymous w/ education... in fact, roughly antithetical) might be a major part of the problem? I don't know if you're willing to consider it, as it does require setting aside a few core beliefs about the nature of schooling and of education. But don't let school requirements get in the way of doing what's right for your daughter. In all 50 states, it's legal (and usually quite easy) to get out of compulsory attendance requirements by way of homeschooling. It's especially easy if the kid is employed in the entertainment industry. So what about taking her along w/ you this summer as an apprentice? Would she go for that?

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« Reply #33 on: June 04, 2005, 01:06:00 PM »
"like gender issues, cutting herself(minor), smoking, piss-poor school work, etc."

This sounds like the standard difficult-adolescence "I don't know who the hell I am or who the hell I want to be" angst.

Which doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

It's heartbreaking to watch your beautiful baby, grown into your beautiful child, struggle.

(Can you tell I'm a mom?)

Pieper, you've really got my sympathy.

The smoking and the cutting are both things people use to "self-medicate" by reducing anxiety.  The smoking because nicotine increases available serotonin---just like prozac.  The cutting because it releases endorphins.

The piss-poor grades sound like she *may* be avoiding doing school work because she's so anxious about whatever's bothering her that she gets more anxious every time she tries to do her schoolwork and just shuts down.

The anxiousness may or may not be school related---but because of the pressure over grades (which comes from life, not just you), if it didn't start off school-related, it's spiralled into that.  She's afraid of her bad grades so she avoids everything to do with schoolwork because it reminds her of her angst----which further sinks her grades.

If she doesn't have a major mental illness, she *might* benefit from a low dose of an anti-anxiety drug long enough to let therapy start taking effect.  If you can get her exercising to get her endorphins instead of cutting, you can eliminate the cutting.  If you can get her to have reduced anxiety, as part of therapy, you *may* be able to get her to quit smoking.  If you can reduce her grade-related anxiety temporarily with meds, then homework help with someplacy like Sylvan can help her get her grades back under control and eliminate at least *part* of the source of the angst.

I'm not sure where the gender issues are coming from and whether there's anything "real" there causing her angst, or whether they're a symptom of the angst.  

Well, I'm not sure about *any* of it since I don't know you.

Except that what you've described *sounds like* loads of pain and angst and you may need to temporarily take that load off of her chemically for her to have the energy and focus to start, one by one, coping with the problems that have built up so much angst.

Or a good therapist may be able to do it without meds.

All I can suggest is that you keep an open mind and ask around with other parents in your area to find a really good therapist.

You're obviously a very caring mother, and your daughter is obviously in the throes of some serious teenage pain.

Dang, you couldn't pay me enough to get me to go back and be a teenager again.

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« Reply #34 on: June 04, 2005, 01:15:00 PM »
While I believe major mental illnesses *need* to be medicated, I'm hesitant to suggest them for normal teen angst---except that smoking is *already* effectively taking prozac, only much more dangerously to long term health if the addiction really gets a grip on her.

It's easier to get people to quit taking an SSRI or Welbutrin when they no longer need it than it is to get them to quit smoking.

And the cutting, if it becomes an entrenched habit, may seem minor now, but could become quite serious.

Those are the *only* reasons I'm saying you may want to keep an open mind if her doctor doesn't find any serious mental illness but suggests *very temporary* medication to assist her in the early stages of therapy.  And that only *very* carefully.

She's already on an SSRI she's doing to herself---the nicotine.  If you can get her buy-in to get her off that, and then gradually off the replacement for the nicotine, the health benefits are probably worth it.

Tough call.  All I can suggest is that you make sure you find a really good professional to help you figure out what's best for her.

If it won't offend you, you'll have my prayers.

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« Reply #35 on: October 16, 2005, 05:16:00 PM »
Any more info about Oak Creek Ranch during a regular school year program?
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