Hi there Anonymous Poster #1
I was reading you and I thought to comment here. About the lack of victims coming forward, when you are coerced to do things by emotional abuse and manipulation, there is built into the mind and emotions of the person being so used, a big barrier of shame, and even fear that others will not believe one. There is built thru the consistent breaking down of a persons spirit and will, a fear that they are even wrong, the intensity of self doubt has crippled most of them to not be able to rise to defend themself. And the saftey of a board here to speak out and be heard and find validation is so very empowering and healing.
When one has been a victim of any kind of controlling relationship, one loses ones empowerment to be one self and grow healthily to relationships and life goals. When one has to use all of ones power to survive, when one is still haunted with nightmares that one has no power to stop from happening, one has not a lot of energy or empowerment to go on and seek a normal life.
If you need to read up and research a bit on some of what trauma does to people, there is a very good website about trauma memories and how it is different from normal memories, found at
http://www.jimhopper.com , also read up and research how rape victims go through the healing process, until you have been raped you do not know what you refer to, and you may be speaking out of a complete void of ignorance about the reality of the truama of a rape victim.
I would wonder at your lack of compassion to those who are doing all they can to survive and move on, adn pull the very real pieces of thier spirits minds and souls back into a state of being able to walk on.
until it is behind one, it is still in ones way. If the trauma of a car wreck happend four months ago or 10 years ago, and left one severly damaged , one would have to focus all of ones emotional and physical energy on just learning to get whole or just cope as one is.
so too with severe emotional and spiritual abuses, trust has to be rebuilt with parents, with church leaders, with God, with oneself, and it is truly like beginning again.
You do not need to help shame the parents who already sit in the ashes of shame, some of them are deeply sorry, while some are very brainwashed and think it is of God to break the wills of young persons.
What Rameriz did in standing out no the News in front of that place was i am sure very very empowering and healing for her to do, it took a TON of courage, nay, 500 TONS of courage to do what she did, she showed her face and she spoke her cause, and she didnt have to drag it through the torture of the justice system to help bring about some justice and help fight against the perpetrator. he is i am sure, sitting in his own shame he pooped out on himself.
Why is this so important to you, are you a survivor of the place or one like it? or are you a worker of one of these places? what difference does it make to you personally, why such an emotional reaction from a supposed complete stranger who strolled into the forum here adn just decided to talk out of a great huge pool of complete ignorance, and pretend she/he is bigger than they are?
yes too many holes in the stories, when one is pumped full of psychotrophics adn the tapes play all night in your sleep and you are beaten down with boards, adn not given a chance to make sense of your inner pain adn struggles,then one is made to forget things, there becomes a breaking in ones mind, and this is evil workings .... this is not of God, period! no questions about it, funny how satan clothes himself in clothing to appear good...but when noone is looking he slays those who are innocent and poor, rendered orphans from the severance that is put into place between them and thier parents, this is not of God, God is all for healnig the family , God does not see it as the kid being the issue, but he sees that the family needs help, the kid is just reacting tothe pain in the family. period.
