Bro Mike,
I believe you are a caring person, and probably a righteous man. However, we were sent away by our parents to get "fixed". That is the ultimate rejection. We have to live with the fact that we weren't good enough for them, and then we get sent to a place that makes us feel we aren't good enough for God unless we live by their rules. I know that is not what they mean to do, but it is the message we as young, impressionable children received. Adult Christian mentors are indeed necessary, but not in that way. Jesus preached love and condemned the pharisees. It was His love that changed the world, not condemnation. Can't you see the struggle we had to go through to find self-acceptance after the homes?