Sorry for the reference to the violence thing, it was only something I heard long ago.
I cant say I am personally overjoyed to see you on this site. You did do a lot of things that made it very hard for me. However, resolution is the only way to go for me these days you know? It is good that you found this place and hopefully it will give you some answers.
I would like to chat, really,....my e-mail is
babalu@hotmail.com and my Yahoo screen name is "greasepipe" ....drop me a note and I will do the same.
Welcome!