Anon said:
..."What do you mean my zero or limited contact? Once a week contact with the therapist and family rep..."
---which in our WWASPS case meant an uneducated untrained "guard", who you could *try* to connect by phone each Tuesday afternoon, and who told the parents for more than the first 2 months that '...she is doing well but having a little trouble with the rules', while failing to mention that the child was spending all day/every day in a white beach chair, feet flat on the floor, facing the blank wall of a 3x5 white room, no school, no exercise, no human interaction at all---
"...unlimited letter writing"
---as required by WWASPS every Monday afternoon, but only one-third of all letters home were sent, [only 1 of every 3 weekly assignments made it home] and no one knows how many tries by the child until an "acceptable" letter was drafted---
"...family support groups, BBS interaction and of course, the personal growth seminars..."
---which consist of a lot of whining and guilt trips, desperate attempts at self-validation for the failure of the parent to *parent* his own child. Heavy emphasis on how we just have to let go of our guilt and realize that the kid is totally at fault, and once he realizes that lying and manipulation will gain nothing but consequences [punishment, banishment, and isolation] will he begin to toe the line and "earn" the right to return to our loving family.
"...the teen/parent workshops and family after care."
---which occur well into the Program, are formatted not as a family get-together but rather as a *workshop* where the child instantly understands that The Program has taken on a new face that only looks like Mom and Dad, and only when the child has learned the ultimate manipulation of saying whatever it takes - fake it till you make it. Family aftercare consists of monthly meetings with those few supporters so devout that they continue the bizarre relationship with other failure parents, infrequently bringing their children into the mix...which does not have anything to do with "FAMILY" aftercare.
"...If you're talking about in person contact and unlimited phone calls at the early part of it, you're right, that is limited."
---try WWASPS' incredible parent manipulation and lying that witholds direct contact OF ANY SORT WITH ANY FAMILY, not at the earliest part, but for 10 f****** months, almost one whole year, for a 14yo kid!
".. .The unlimited letter writing (not censored BTW)..."
--- :wstupid: You simply cannot be stupid enough to believe this!!!! Emails, the quintessential censorable medium, for God's sake! Has your child ever talked to you about little things he said in his letters, "...but I told you about being sick/eating crap/OP", and you insist that he never wrote that? Or is he still in WWASPS and you haven't ever really talked to him without a club hanging over his head?
"...What is being called "breaking them down" is not a negative."
---Have you read ANY of the quoted material in this thread about how negatives DON'T help??? These "problem" kids need double-fold the love, attention, and guidance to get them through tough times.
"...is to rebuild communication, first letters, then phone calls, then visits. It works for anyone that isn't a control freak."
---spoken by a World-Class control freak.
