I just want to know how others deal with it. It still drives me insane everytime. I remember shortly after I got out AMA, my dad saying that he would always think of me as being "mentally ill", and nothing would ever change that. Sure enough when I graduated college, on graduation day, he reminded me of that. My mom sat there silently not knowing what to do. She is old school and does not intervene. He can be quite scary if provoked. Now they are in their 80's but he still thinks of me that way. She does not. She has had to whisper to me on the phone a few times today. It sucks. Thanks Che, they do cling to the cult thing. One sib is in Landmark, and one is in Al-Anon, the other is just a regular old redneck. He just likes to hassle me about being a lesbian now and again. With him, I just have to put him in his place, and we are friends again.