On 2006-05-03 16:58:00, CaughtInTheMiddle wrote:
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I'm sorry, I try to steer clear of arguements on this site, and if what I say starts one then, oh well.
You started one with this forum and the childish demented lie about Alex trying to jump over a bridge to be able to talk to you. Then your mother makes something up about you dreaming about it. OMG even my 3 year old could have come up with something better then that. This from an ADULT see not all ADULTS are the smartest people. At some point in time don't you think you should just admit when you have lied. Oh I see it is ok for you but not anybody else. It is ok for you to put shit about his family all over the net but if something is said to you then you are owed an apology ::puke:: ask Alex about that he will know and you probably know what I am talking about.
I will tell you right now, I had my mother fooled for probably a whole 6 months. Now, how long did Alex have his parents and family, including you, fooled? I seem to remember the word YEARS in the time frame somewhere...
Please Ashley I am not that easy. This is the last you will hear from me on this site. 6 months is all you will admit to because that is what you had to fess up to because of getting caught. We all make mistakes remember first part is admitting them. Not only the portion you wont.
If I didn't tell your mother she would have not known unless Alex told her how horrible would that have been for him. Nice girlfriend you are. I am sure you would have told her so he didn't have to. Easy to say now. Now I wish I didn't.
And don't say that I'm bashing Alex or his family, or anyone for that matter. I just happen to be stating a fact. I'm quite tired of you trying to make it out like we brainwash Alex into everything he says or does. Remember, he is almost an ADULT. Free to make his own choices. I don't understand how none of you can accept that."
The Fact... why? because you say they are. Whatever you say. Your getting tired? It isn't all about you Ashley look around there are more people involved. So when Alex is an ADULT is he moving out? You act like when he turns 18 it is going to be some big deal or something like all of a sudden he will have a great job a house make enough money to marry you and start a ADULT life. It doesn't quit work that way dear. He could do everything he is doing there at his parents house also where he should be. By the
way he is doing it. HIM not you. I am proud of HIM. What ever decision he makes I owe HIM accountable for even if HE chooses to take his advise from YOU. He is his own person.
[ This Message was edited by: CaughtInTheMiddle on 2006-05-03 17:05 ]"
Pam,
This is just getting completely out of control all over again! Alex has been home for two months now, and I think it is time for all the of this to come to an end. He is doing good for himself, if you don't want to give us any credit for that, so be it. We are just trying to help Alex along so he can become independent as a young adult. Maybe he would have done just as well at home, but he chose where he wanted to be. I didn't "lie" about Ashley dreaming up the bridge incident, I was just trying to make some sense of the "story" since she woke up telling me this at 5:00am. Did she make it up? I don't know, but I believed her since he was not emotionally stable for some time.
The forum was started to get some advice/feedback after reading up on the "program" he was sent to. It was not started to insult or start a war between the families.
We don't know where this will go in the future. All we know right now is Alex wants to better himself, get his diploma, have a decent job, and have his own place. These are some pretty solid goals for a young adult, and I believe he will accomplish them, with or without his families support.
I am done arguing with you. This is not going to help the situation at all. All of this is very unhealthy for both Alex and Ashley. Good day!
Leslie