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« on: September 27, 2007, 01:29:02 PM »
what MADE them want to send your niece there? I mean was she out of control, did they not know how to handle her adolescence? I'm not asking these questions to be condescening in the least. I went to BCA from 96-99. The things that I was doing, was normal to me, not my mother. I was involved in a gang, I drank, I skipped school, I fought, I got kicked out of every school in the district within a 3 month timeline. But it was MY counselor who found BCA and helped her to believe that it was the thing to do. I DID thank her however, for NOT sending me to Provo Canyon School even after we watched the "video" on it.
So what IS it? I mean, there are things that are normal for teenagers to grow through. It is part of life, growing AND education. But to just give up and throw them to these schools is what is going to make them worse coming out. I never snorted more coke in my life than I did when I came out. Simply for the fact that I couldn't keep friends in the real world seeing as how I was TAUGHT and TRAINED to speak "deeply, and with emotion" with people. I'm not blaming the school on my going back to drugs and having a heavier problem then when I got sent there, but I DO blame them for making me feel abnormal, weird, sick, demented, and giving me NO transition back into the real world where people simply don't give a damn about your 'feelings' even if they just shot you.
I have a four year old son, who is already growing over 4 feet tall, with size 12 kids shoes and has biceps, triceps, pecs and wing muscles, DEFINED! I EXPECT him to cause problems, to get in trouble and maybe even occasionaly fight. I WILL NOT condone him acting out, but we ALL did it as teenagers. It will continue to the end of time. The only thing we have ANY control over is HOW they approach situations, view them and either walk away or at least know and CARE ABOUT the consequences from their desicions, good or bad.
I would like to apologize for my tangent ONLY IF someone took offense to this. But I DO NOT apologize for my opinion. We, as parents, coming from an alumni of BCA, CEDU, LIFE, need to be MORE involved with our children and not pawn them off on someone else who will 'fix' the children who are not broken to begin with.