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« on: January 18, 2003, 01:30:00 PM »
I went through the same thing with my younger brother. He got hooked on crack, and ended up serving a couple of years in prison. It was heartbreaking for my family. I was really angry with him at first. He'd get bailed out of trouble again and again, and then screw it all up. I started wondering if he was a sociopath. What I've realized is that somewhere between being a Straight sibling and becoming an adult, my brother's self esteem got squashed. The emotional boundaries in my family were so screwed up that forming an adult identity was next to impossible. He never experienced the consequences of his actions because my well-meaning parents were always bailing him out.
Unfortunately, treatment did him no good. He spent close to 2 years in prison, worked hard in there, and got out about a year and a half ago. Today, he is doing really well. He is involved in AA and NA and has been clean for several years. He's working and supporting himself. I'm really proud of him. I don't think anything I could have said or done would have made a difference back then. I wrote him letters and visited him in prison. I think he had to figure things out for himself.
I understand a lot of the feelings you're having. I don't know if there is anything you could say or do to help your brother. In my case, my brother had my quiet support (after I got over being angry with him) and that did seem to help. I wish you and your brother well.