Thanks! Here's something I'd like to add:
Hi girls,
The sad reality of public forums is that anyone came come here and say anything they want, be it helpeful or hurtful to those who were looking for support in the first place.
Since you can't control what people are saying, and since some are insensitive and downright rude and hurtful, then you may want to look at options so you can still get the support you came for but not have to deal with these insensitive girls.
I learned something recently. If you approach something knowing ahead of time you will get some postive responses and some negative ones, some supportive and some the opposite, then you can be more objective about their responses and ignore them if they are negative.
I think you girls who were harmed should upport one another. If some girls are making you feel bad, hurt, and that they have no sympathy for what you went through, then you might want to consider not reading their posts. Once you start reading and you see where it's headed, move on. At the very least, you may want to consider not engaging in conversation with them any more.
They'll get tired of arguing with themselves.
Let them rant, let them rave.
What possible positive thing could they be trying to accomplish here?
Maybe they're still looking for John's approval.
It's all so sad and such a waste of energy. This is obviously a place where girls wanted to get support and to reunite.
And it can be that, you just have to be realistic and know that some girls will come here and try to discredit your story and those of others.
If you engage, they win. If not, they don't.
Just a suggestion, of course you should do what is right for you. I don't like seeing you girls hurt. This is just another option.
Good luck and don't let them get to you!!