My opinion of parents who still don't emotionally support their kids after all this time is that it's a flaw with them, not you. If they weren't emotionally damaged in their own childhood, then more than likely, they had your life all planned out in advance - forcing their dreams, hopes, goals, etc. on you. You chose a different path, didn't go along with their expectations - which is perfectly understandable since you aren't them. But instead of letting you be you and loving you "warts" and all, they're cold and distant. And think that "tough love" (emotional cruelty) will change you into the person they want you to be. They're still hanging on to their selfish desires for YOUR life. If they've ever told you they were disappointed in you, that's proof right there. Be who you want to be. Do what makes you happy. Parents are a nice thing to have, but as an adult, I haven't found them to be a necessity.
Shelby
mom of 6 :smile: