Cindy thats great news about your father! In addition, about Brian's education, I was forced in order to graduate Elan to be accepted into a college and Make Elan a promise that I would go. I went... for one day then I ran away with my boyfriend to Chicago. My parents lost a ton of money and it strained our relationship horribly. I didn't want to go to college at all, but I had to say I would, so I think things ended up worse when I left and my parents were so dissapointed. Elan did not allow me to say, "No I do not want to go to school", therefore a bigger problem was made. I ended up living in an empty apartment with my boyfriend, scaping by just to eat and living in a pretty horrible neighborhood on the southside of peoria, falling asleep everynight to gangfights in my parking lot and occasional gun shots. My parents pressured me so hard to go back to school eveytime we spoke, that I knew it would be the only way to make my situation better. I went back to school. The entire time I was there I was only treated well by my parents if I called with news of good grades, and when they started to slip the pressure from them was so intense that I gave up again. It's been two years now since I was in school, and I'm living in a nice apartment by myself and have awesome friends and an loving boyfriend and the best relationship with my parents I have ever had because they have finally let me make my own decisions. This long tedious post basically to sum it up, Is that Brian is much more likely to make the desision on his own to go to school if he doesn't feel pressured by his mother. In the long run asking him consistanly to go to college could make him think that you would not be proud of him unless he does this certain thing. I have friends right now that are 25 and just starting school. Even if it takes him awhile to realize, he will start to see that not everyone even has the funding to go, so It's worth a shot. My college funding ran out after 4 years of school, and I didn't have enough credits to graduate. I wish I could start school now instead of messing it up in 2000. But I lost my chance. I know this isn't the answer to what is going on with Brian, but I thought it might possibly be a new perspective you would consider. Cheers Cindy!