Well, when they fired me for treating the kids with respect, after they demanded I "buy in" to the abuse they perpatrated on kids, which I witnessed and fought daily, I don't feel sorry except for some of the teachers, the computer guys, the kitchen ladies and the maintence workers. OK, FUCK! I do feel sorry for some of the staff and management, but very few.
This morning, I read about CEDU closing in the Spokesman Review Newspaper. YES, this is a dream come true. But, let's not forget that there are still people like "Dr Fucktard" out there and a few parents who are stupid enough to trust him.
Will you all join me in taking the remainder of these hell holes down one-by-one. CEDU was the big dog. If he could be killed then the others can too. And. :tup: thank you Ginger, SOS, Blown away, and the countless others who helped bring this about by exposing the "hidden facts." But, folks, it is not over, don't forget that many of those demented staff members will run out and pool their resourses to get other schools started.
Like CEDU, they will try to get rich on the backs of scared and desperate parents who trust them and believe their lies.
And, you parents', there is a better solution. Build ultra strong relationships with your kids, so they love, care for, and trust you. It was no great deed for me to do that as a BCA therapist, and many of the kids still contact me, and I am still their father and friend. They, many of them are still going through hard times, but they are working on themselves.
Be gentle with yourselves and your kids. You are both wrong and both right. Please know and remember, "relationship is everything." The few respected and loved staff at CEDU knew this, and kids did change because they cared about their mentors - therapists, or staff and finally for themselves. That was the only "magic" CEDU ever held. CEDU died because staff forgot that very lesson about rock solid relationships.
It does not take therapy, It does not take a program, and it does not take a staff member to help a kid - just a good relationship with a father, mother, brother, sister, uncle, or, friends. All that the successful staff and therapists ever did at CEDU was build a bond and ask the kid, out of respect for that bond, to care about himself and the relationship. So, parents, It is a big investment, and it will take time, and they might not quit pot or sex. But you can still love them and teach them care for others, skills, and responsibiliy, and let them learn the hard way - out there. Just be there for them. Sure they will abuse you, they will use you, but don't sell out your love. take "the path with a heart." They are growing, and growing is hard - respect that and be empathetic. Model patience, kindness, love, care for others, and for life in your own behavior - they will catch on after many long hard years. I did when I was a kid. Have faith in your kid and yourself.
Hint my name is not Roy, but "what we do in life echoes in eternity."
Programs never worked. It was the relationships that worked.
Peace