My mother, in the past year has been selfish and vindictive, while staying in total "Christian" denial about all of it. She thinks she is this supreme being that doesn't have to be accountable for the things she says and does. For example:
-- She withheld a gift she bought for me for on Christmas, and sent me an email telling me how she bought me something but didn't send it, because in her mind I didn't deserve it?
-- She sends inappropriate emails to my 13 year old daughter complaining about me.
-- She lies, she's manipulative, she's a control freak, she uses guilt as her weapon, and Christianity as immunity.
-- She asked me to send her a cat by crating it and putting it on a 14 hour bus ride to Dallas/Ft Worth. :roll:
-- She was calling me drunk and crying all the time until I told her never to call me again drunk. So she stopped calling until something terrible happened that she could cry to me about, or made something up.
I can clearly see now why she sent me away all those years. She can?t handle anything on her own, she?s like a child who has to be told what to do. But don?t tell her something she might not like hearing or she?ll get mad and throw sand, then pout in the corner on the sandbox.
I know that last year I may have mentioned that I was going through some "reconciliation process" with my mother, but a lot changed after she came up to visit me. I realized that there really was no room in my life for someone who makes me feel the way that I do when I'm in any sort of contact her. It sucks but that's the reality of it.