Art,
Thanks, my son is doing well. He is actually enjoyable to be with...Wow, I never thought I would say that again.
He did hate being there, I will not discount that! He spent most of his time scrubbing floors & toilets.
I didn't know all the staff, but most of the ones I met I liked, and so did he. A couple of guys I didn't care for were Pete Rowe, he creeped me out and I don't like his attitude. Another was that guy Marc with the dyed black hair that looks strung out.
I don't know their history, but Brian liked them both so I had to get over it.
I was a major thorn in elan's side because I called there 3-4 times a week for a progress report.
When they wouldn't take my calls,I left messages stating how I would be there in the A.M. to see things for myself. They were NOT going to blow me off!
I had regular calls, phone conferences and his supervisor Missy would give me extra calls with him when I was feeling down. She was the one that got us through it all.
I will forever be grateful to her for that.
I heard about the abuse, 15 or so months into the program. So what I did was get my son away from his SP and interrogate him, ask him if any of this was going on. I told him I would pull him right out of there if it was happening. I would not send him back for 5 minutes, and I would contact the police and whoever else I needed to to make it stop. But he had better not lie to me just to leave.
He assured me he was safe, but begged to leave.
He is very happy that he got his diploma and enjoyed being on the track team.
We both wish things could have been "normal" but you don't get to choose some things in life and when you do, many times it isn't the right choice.
Fortunatly for us, elan was a desperate choice that helped.
As for these abusers, I would like to see them punished. It sounds like the horrific stories my Dad tells me about the orphanage he was in.
CT