You said,"Your kids could not be in a better place than the Whitmore."
That bothers me.
What is wrong with your house, and your parenting skills, that your own kid can't be at YOUR HOUSE WITH HER OWN PARENT, HUH?
Maybe you need to go spend some time at this fine place, and maybe you need to "get the program" so you can find YOUR HEART and tend to your OWN KID!
Now you can't act like Cheryl Sudweeks and spit in her face, or call her a slut, or have a group of people beat the hell out of her, or deny her the right to an education, or starve her, or not allow her to sleep, and work her to death and make her do all your housework, or anything like that, OK?