On 2005-01-14 06:37:00, Anonymous wrote:
" If you re-read the post, you'll see that NO WHERE did I write "get over it". DEAL with it and move on is what was written. BIG DIFFERENCE.
It appears that many of you choose NOT to deal with your issues, except to complain, and gripe on this site, etc. Sure, maybe it helps to spew a bit... but YEARS of posts??! Where has that gotten anyone? How many programs have the people posting on this site shut down??
It seems black or white -- since some of you had what you say it abuse in a program, ALL programs are abusive! I say that's not true... it's NOT all black or white."
Of course it's not.
There *are* things that require residential care and there *is* such a thing as good residential care.
But Stockholm Syndrome is no substitute for real care, confrontational "therapy" is generally terribly inferior to supportive therapy, and whatever a person's problems, adding PTSD on top of it is not an improvement.
The "Program" model of treatment has some serious problems.
What showing up and bitching on Fornits does is:
1) Increases consumer awareness of the problems
2) provides a clearing house for actual news regarding the various programs
3) provides support for friends, family, and survivors dealing with programs and their aftermath
4) allows brainstorming about possible solutions
5) just plain gives someplace to vent
Sometimes I post because I'm here anyway to check for real news. I might as well.
Sometimes I post because the solution to the speech of Program cheerleaders is more speech.
Fornits may not shut programs down, but it does support family members who try to get their loved ones back out of programs---Paige's son's sister, Amanda, is a good example. It provides real information so that if you're debating a particular program with people who don't generally come here, you can provide a link and the people you're talking to can read what people who've actually been there, recently, say about that particular program. It helps convince some individual parents to choose better, safer options for their child's care.
Advocacy and activism *do* make real changes in the world. They make them slowly, like water dripping on limestone, but they do make them.
Timoclea
Enlighten the people generally, and tyranny and oppression of both mind and body will vanish like evil spirits at the dawn of day
http://laissezfairebooks.com/product.cfm?op=view&pid=FF7485&aid=10247' target='_new'> Thomas Jefferson