Well so you're going to ignore what the research says, the research done by the National Institute of Health...OK.
And the first one is nothing like AARC. If you are confused and think this, it is because AARC has taken the vocabulary from more acceptable approaches and redefined everything in their own sick way. That would be the source of your confusion. Notice that everything also applies to the parents. The method of achieving the goals listed, I promise, are nothing remotely like what goes on at AARC. They teach then how to ask for what they need. Something severely lacking at AARC. They teach them how to communicate their feelings (no blaming) but this means their REAL feelings. This would include anger, fear, confusion, anything. AARC doesn't let that happen, it's only certain feelings. Look at the therapist skills list to see what they value. This is things like positive reinforcement, reframing things in a more positive light and things like that.
I dont' understand your last statement.