To Serbia and current others on this thread--
Now this is disheartening. I thought that bradensmith, MAD and and some other new posters had gotten this site to a little higher, at least a little happier, level of discourse a couple of weeks ago.
First I want to say that I've really enjoyed this site. I've gotten a lot of good ideas and contacts from my time here earlier in the summer, more than enough good stuff to weigh-out various nasty comments--and even these have sometimes been informative. It's just that at the moment I have very little time to check in, and when I do,I see such a disappointing back-sliding on some of the threads.
Just for your information (I know, I know, like you'll believe it), my son simply has no interest whatsoever in this site.
I know that's hard for some of you to believe because this site plays a big part in your lives, but there it is: it's just irrelevant to him. I've also mentioned Fornit's to other CEDU grads who think the school did them good, and as far as I know, though I'm not sure of this, they haven't bothered to check in here either.
I understand that many of you are still bound by very negative feelings to your school experiences, perhaps you believe that posting here is going to change parents' minds about the schools (though in which direction, you might want to consider!)and so forth.
But if you are going to be in touch with the full reality of the experience of CEDU grads, as a group, you are going to have to consider the fact that for a lot of people, being in a CEDU school was a learning experience, and they have taken what they learned and gone on. It's not that they are mind-controlled or in a cult or anything, they just have other things to do now.
It will their performance in these new, future-oriented parts of their lives, not their personal decisions about whether or not to argue with angry ex-students and parents on a web-site, that will define whether they are fully-functioning or courageous or anything else.
Now my daughter is a very giving, generous person, the type of person who likes to help people get a full picture of what is happening on a situation like this one, where she hears some people making such extraordinary claims and yet she knows of many people who have experienced something very different.
She is on summer vacation and she likes the computer and if she has time, well, why not? I've told her that my advice is to go for it, if she wants to, and take what is good and leave the rest. That's what I try to do.
I think the fundamental defining difference in this debate has been clarified for me by Ginger recently and still more recently by Deborah, and it involves the role that parents should play in their minor children's lives and decision-making.
As I said to Ginger earlier, the proof of who is right will be decided, not by words, but by how children who have been raised in the differing ways that we've discussed turn out and how they contribute to the world and the future. From what I see, I'm happy with our choices.
I'll see you later.