Paige, the problem with a situation like yours is its impossible for anyone on the outside to know who's telling the truth.
You might be; and you might not. No body involved with this conversation has any way of knowing, except you.
And about Unconditional Love; I am very familiar with this, believe me. You might actually mean it and be capable of it; but in my experience the average person just isn't. Its like a nice idea - but not actually obtainable. Well, I don't mean that exactly - the love may last irregardless of the circumstances; but living with the Loved one can become impossible with out conditions.
As I alluded to; I have had up close and personal experience with just such a situation. It was a disaster, b/c the grand ma in this case wasn't able to tolerate the conditions of living with the grand daughter when it came down to it. And she had had Plenty of warning of how hard ad challenging it was going to be. She had stars in her eyes and was sure all that was required was Unconditional love which she was sure she could provide. She was way wrong; and it seriously aggravate the already hyped up abandonment issues; caused a lot of extra pain, anger, stress and grief for everybody; and deprived the girl of much needed social services. Nightmare barely gives an idea of how awful it was b/c this grand Ma wouldn't admit her limitations upfront; and refused to face the reality of her grand daughter's situation.
Experience has taught me this is the rule; not the exception in such situations. This is why I'm concerned.
I am not saying this will absolutely be the way it goes for you if Amanda move in with you upon reaching the age of majority - but its a risk you may not have thought threw. That is ALL I'm asking you to do.
You write: "Karen, why is it so hard for you to believe that someone would be so willing to take this child?"
Its not - not at all. And it might be a great thing. I don't know. What concerns me is you might not know either.
Cayo writes: "I agree with Ginger, I'd like an answer as to how you know that God isn't working through Paige. Ya know, he does work in mysterious ways"
I don't know, and you have a point.
I actually take great comfort in this on many occassions. I may judge wrongly. God never does.
Ginger has her jab at me: " The one suggesting that Paige doesn't know the truth about this girl she's known for the past dozen years and hadn't thought about what might happen after the "honeymoon" phase. That sanctimonious statement. "
Ginger, I didn't say that. I do not know how well Paige knows Amanda. I have no idea. I do know, there is always a "honey moon" phase were everything is roses (or apples as the Aussies say) and then things change. How they change will naturally varry. Paige needs to get her eyes wide open before going forward.