Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > The Troubled Teen Industry
My 16 year old daughter's first love
Janet:
Mom, your daughter may just take one look at her "first love" and think, "What did I ever see in him?" Happens all the time to 16 year olds. Remember when you were 16? But your daughter needs to make this decision.
I am an old woman with 3 adult adopted children. All of them have found birth relatives. My daughter was the last one to find her birth parents, and they are a real set of doozies! Both of them have been through a few marriages, (or sort of marriages), and now, that they have been reunited by the daughter they gave away, they are ready to drop their present spouses, and marry each other! The point of this is that my daughter's birth grandparents should have let those two get disgusted with each other while they were young. Then hopefully they would have learned from their mistakes and would have chosen better mates! If they didn't learn from that mistake, they probably never would. You cannot live and control your child's life. And no matter what kind of parent you are, your child is going to be what he or she wants to be. Just hope your child will be happy, content, and reasonably secure.
Anonymous:
I think the link to the "cutting" was just a heads up. This is one way kids can be secretive when they are depressed.
Anonymous:
What is wrong with you people? The "defiance issue"?
I'm sorry, teenagers are defiant. They rebel. They always have, and always will. That's something you need to accept. It's their way of weaning. The fact that you would even consider sending your daughter to one of these horrible places speaks volumes about you and WHY your daughter would behave "that way."
Therion:
Your daughter sounds like a normal, wonderful teenager.
Drug use and teen rebellion are not one and the same.
Teengaers are learning to think for themselves..developing their own beliefs.
You can guide them, but forcing them to do things your way will only alienate them and force them away from you.
Try to just be her friend and offer suggestions..you will get alot further..kids that are friends with their parents are alot less likely to turn to drug use.
Kids that were constantly overpowered by Mom and Dad, and thus see Mom and Dad as enemy...are going to turn out alot worse..
Trust me, I know..
Let her love the boy...and see him..she may be the only good thing in his life. She sounds like shes smart enough to make good decisions on her own. If she wants to see him she will do it behind your back, you cannot stop someone who thinks they are in love....
kaydeejaded:
I know Therion I was just horrified when I read this thread.
Why would you want to be so manipulative and controlling in your childs life.
And of course that poor boy is thinking only of her he is being tortured in a wilderness program, and you are about to sabotage his progress to meet your own adgenda.
I am sad, for your children for that boy it is a shame.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Necessity never made a good bargain
--Benjamin Franklin Apr. 1734
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