Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > The Troubled Teen Industry
My 16 year old daughter's first love
ehm:
--- Quote ---On 2004-01-24 10:11:00, Anonymous wrote:
"You have no reason not to believe that your daughter was using drugs? Did you have her tested? What about the defiance and dropping grades?
He is all she thinks about? That is NOT healthy and giving her even a single thread of hope that she will see him again may keep her from taking care of herself and finding an inner strength that she doesn't NEED this guy in her life.
It doesn't sound like she needs a residential program, but it does sound like it's time she get honest with herself about what she is willing to accept into her life. Keeping friends that are not involved with drugs is a good start, but what else could give her a way to move past this obsession?
First loves won't be forgotten. Ask her what she learned from this relationship. No one can find healthier relationships but her. She has to want to decide to take what she learned and either repeat it or find other ways to be in love.
BTW - even A students, star athletes can be self-destructive and if they don't want us parents to know about it, they can hide it for a while and look very good in the process.
Have her drug tested. Watch her eating habits, monitor her phone calls. Sounds hard? It may give you more peace than you realize to know what is happening, either good or bad. "
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FUCK OFF.
Is uniformity [of opinion] attainable? Millions of innocent men, women, and children, since the introduction of Christianity, have been burnt, tortured, fined, imprisoned; yet we have not advanced one inch towards uniformity. What has been the effect of coercion? To make one half the world fools, and the other half hypocrites.
Thomas Jefferson
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Cayo Hueso:
PM me.....I have two girls, 18 and 16. Went through a very similar situation with the older one. I'll be glad to talk with you about it. My oldest is doing great now, studying to be a nurse....but it was shaky for a while. She's getting ready to move out on her own and I'm biting my nails. MOst of what you described sounds like normal teenage behavior to me. I look at this as it's my job to GUIDE her through it, not hold her under my thumb, even if I think it would be for her own good. I never learned anything that way. I know this is a very scary time for you, but hang in there......the vast majority come through fine.
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Therion:
Hi...try to love your daughter rather than push her away...
Shes only going to grow to hate you, then her troubles will really be bad.
Dont be a parental failure...Try an open mind before you lose your daughter forever.
Just so you can come back if you choose not to listen Ill leave this
I TOLD YOU SO !!!!!!
Therion:
--- Quote ---On 2004-01-26 06:05:00, kaydeejaded wrote:
"I know Therion I was just horrified when I read this thread.
Why would you want to be so manipulative and controlling in your childs life.
And of course that poor boy is thinking only of her he is being tortured in a wilderness program, and you are about to sabotage his progress to meet your own adgenda.
I am sad, for your children for that boy it is a shame.
The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
Necessity never made a good bargain
--Benjamin Franklin Apr. 1734
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I agree K.. What is it that makes some parents so blind and...just ignorant. Jees!
Come on guys this stuff is not that hard.
Parent, do you not have a heart?
Can you not follow your heart and make a decision
without coming on the Web and tying to find which "program" to send your child ...so that they can raise your kids for you?! And you think this boy is troubled..
You people are blind...you dont deserve children you fools! I wouldnt let you adopt my dog...
Therion:
Now go take another Xanax and scream at your daughter...or rummage through her room...or listen to her phone calls....IDIOTS!
Hmm Ill just disregard my daughters right to privacy and force my beliefs on her..Ill decide whom she loves, and how she dresses..and oh its not working I better have her put into a wilderness camp!
Dont you see ythe flaws in that??!!!
[ This Message was edited by: Therion on 2004-01-26 19:15 ]
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