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My 16 year old daughter's first love

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Cayo Hueso:
I've been through the SAME THING with my daughter.  If you really would like to discuss it, I'd be glad to tell you what I did to get through it.....it was 3 years of being scared and frustrated.  Private message me if you're truly looking for info.  I'd be happy to tell you how I got through it.
In any civilized society, it is every citizen's responsibility to obey just laws.  But at the same time, it is every citizen's responsibility to disobey unjust laws.
--Martin Luther King
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Anonymous:
He may be threatening to run away because the place is abusive.

Since you can't know one way or the other, my advice would be to stay out of it.  *If* the place is abusive, it could be that running away is less harmful to him than staying.  Kids have died or been raped or permanently injured in these places, and he *may* be making a rational choice about his survival.

There's just no telling.  In the absence of information, minding one's own business is the bast choice.

It sounds like your daughter is not interested in the drugs.  It sounds like she wants to be okay, and wants her boyfriend to be okay.

I'd keep my eyes open so she's not at risk if he goes bonkers and does anything weird, but I wouldn't jump to conclusions that that's what's motivating him----as I said above, he may be planning to run away out of a very well founded fear for his own permanent physical well-being.

There are times to act, and times to sit back and keep your mouth shut and your eyes open.

In your situation, if I were you, I'd consider it a time for the latter.  You just don't have enough information to act and know that you won't be doing more harm than good.

Anonymous:
From the way it was written, the boy is threatening to run away if he doesn't get his way, plain and more plain.

Froderik:
If by "get his way" you mean to get himself out of a potentially (or already) abusive situation, then I agree...

Anonymous:
"By the way, the latest development is that if he is not allowed a home visit to see my daughter within the next few weeks he's going to run away."

This sentence could not be more clear on his manipulation.  

In other words:  If you don't let me go see my girlfriend, then you'll pay by not knowing where I am.  You let me have my way or else!"  

I would say, let him run.  If he can run. Most places are secure enough that it's only an idle threat.

Forget about HIS threats and focus on what's important to you.

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