Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > The Troubled Teen Industry
Spots and Deberahs Family Dynamics?
Anonymous:
Antigen - very good try on this one - the writing assignments are a very SMALL part of a seminar and it's NOT mandatory. You can bet that many more parents CHOOSE to write those letters and it is NOT a requirement of the kids to write - at all. Like the above ANON said - Good try! Won't fly.
Anonymous:
Anon,
In fairness, Spots is not the first or last grandmother to disagree with the decision to place her grandchild in a behavior mod program. What about David Van Blarigan's grandparents? They didn't believe their grandson (who had no criminal record or history of substance abuse) should have been sent to a behavior modification program, either. My question to program parents is why are friends, relatives, neighbors who have a good relationship with your child viewed as "the enemy"? Some children just don't get along with their parents and rely upon the love and guidance of other family members,siblings, friends and even their teachers to help them cope with problems at home. This is not a bad thing, and in fact, makes a lot more sense than punishing a kid for not living up to the expectations and demands of their parents (or a step parent, as the case may be). Only kids who are a danger to themselves or others, or seriously psychotic should be placed in a highly restrictive (meaning 24 hour supervision)residential treatment facility or hospital, and even then, experts say 90 days is about the standard of time needed to stablize the child. Somehow, there has to be a better way to resolve family issues without creating such disharmony and alienting children from their loved ones and forcing them to grow up in an instituionalized-style program. I'm not talking about WWASPS. There are literally hundreds of programs in the U.S. full of kids that don't really need to be there. At least not in the eyes of others who know these children at least as well (if not better) than their own parents do.
Anonymous:
I fully agree with you on this one! Those are the kids in the minority, though. Why some parents would admit their child to a program if they aren't exhibiting behavior that would warrant this type of care is a question only they can answer. I will say, however, even if they have only "normal" teenage issues, they will still come home with knowledge that some people may never learn. To those kids, they won't be there as long. I don't know about any other programs, but I do know that wwasp schools do not accept psychotic diagnosis. These are good kids making life threatening choices, for the majority.
How I do wish there was a better way, a short 90 day quick fix to this. For the majority of us, at least from those I've known over the years, we all tried counseling, help from family, help from anyone, but it failed. There is no easy answer, or working answer other than what we chose for our families - but if you find one let me know.
Anonymous:
Oh, on the 90 day stabilization - that's only stabilized - what about after the 90 days? Change, true change, takes a lot longer than a mere 90 days.
Antigen:
--- Quote ---On 2004-01-03 21:42:00, Anonymous wrote:
That probably because you don't have access to their boards. Another thing a lot of people have jobs, resposibilites, families, relationships etc, not the time or know how of hanging out on some anomous bulletin board.
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Ok, in which one of these private fora do you think we could have this conversation? Let's pick one and just copy and paste the whole thing and count the seconds till it's deleted and I'm banned.
Sacred cows make the best hamburger.
Mark Twain
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