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Ginger, You're Only Hurting Yourself!
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---there ya go --- let's let all TEENAGERS make the decisions in their lives. They are so well known to do the RIGHT thing and make SOUND decisions --- yeah - THAT'S the answer. LOL
Please tell me that none of you "survivors" have kids. PLEASE
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Anon, when it comes to faith-based boarding schools, a teenager is more than capable of deciding for themselves if they want to accept Christ as the answer to pleasing their parents. Remember, these schools target teens who are not court adjudicated and are suffering mainly from a condition called entitlement-itis :smokin:
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Antigen:
--- Quote ---On 2004-06-28 15:22:00, Anonymous wrote:
On 2004-06-28 08:49:00, Anonymous wrote: there ya go --- let's let all TEENAGERS make the decisions in their lives. They are so well known to do the RIGHT thing and make SOUND decisions --- yeah - THAT'S the answer. LOL
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How do you expect kids to learn how to make good decisions for themselves? Are they supposed to defer to Mommy Dearest on every minute issue till the magical moment when they turn 18 or 21 and then, spontaniously, mysteriously start batting 1000, making perfectly good choices without any practice?
No, humans don't operate that way. We learn from experience, sometimes from our mistakes. But becoming a competent, independent adult takes some practice. We know they're going to make mistakes. That's why we don't let them drive, drink, vote or hold public office till they've come of age. Those are sensible limits. But we (sane people) don't want to lock our children up and remove all of their choices every time they piss us off or frighten us. We remember having been children ourselves and we understand that children are complex human beings and our relationships with them very fragile.
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Please tell me that none of you "survivors" have kids. PLEASE"
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Actually, some of us are grandparents already, most of the rest of us have teenaged or preteen kids (who will never see the inside of a teen gulag)
He who joyfully marches in rank and file has already earned my contempt. He has been given a large brain by mistake, since for him the spinal cord would suffice.
--Albert Einstein
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Ginger Warbis ~ Antigen
Seed sibling `71 - `80
Straight South (Sarasota, FL)
10/80 - 10/82
Anonymity Anonymous
It is wrong to leave a stumbling block in the road once it has tripped you.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2004-06-28 15:22:00, Anonymous wrote:
there ya go --- let's let all TEENAGERS make the decisions in their lives. They are so well known to do the RIGHT thing and make SOUND decisions --- yeah - THAT'S the answer. LOL
Please tell me that none of you "survivors" have kids. PLEASE"
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I have two kids now, girls 18 and 16. Both have experimented with drugs/alcohol (one of them did much more than I did as a teen) but both are now doing very well and have NEVER been in treatment or AA or NA or anything else. My oldest graduated high school last year and is in nursing school and my youngest is taking dual enrollment courses as a sophomore so that she can have a year of college done before she graduates high school. I talked to them about what drugs did to me AFTER I got out of Straight. I talked to them in REAL terms, set REAL expectations and allowed them the freedom to make some mistakes on their own and I helped to GUIDE them through those times.
This is from a letter I wrote a few months back. I get so sick and tired of parents who think it's their God given right/responsibility to force their kids into these places. Adolescence ain't for sissies....for the kids or the parents. Take responsibility. Get and stay involved in their lives. Spend more time teaching them to have a passion in life for something than buried in your own lives or problems. Treat them with respect. That includes respecting their need to begin to cut the apron strings. It's not easy, believe me, but far more[/b] damage was and is done in these places.
Cayo Hueso:
:roll: That was me.
...the people have a right to keep and bear arms.
-- Patrick Henry and George Mason Debates
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Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2004-03-30 07:02:00, Antigen wrote:
"Yes, Kiwi, I b'lieve he did.
Anyway, you'd be wise to just save your pennies and sit back and see what happens. I know it's probably inconceivable to you, given your apparent immersion in totalistic thinking. But I actually am not responsible for controling other people, far less for protecting your secrets.
What are politicians going to tell people when the Constitution is gone and we still have a drug problem?
--William Simpson
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Yeah Ginger, hang in there. If "academies" or "schools" are abusing children we have the right to exercise our free speech and point this out. If you get in trouble be sure to let us know what is going on. Don't forget that rich and powerful children are getting stuck in these places too. I know some names I could contact from my experiences that can muscle these assholes right into the ground.
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