Treatment Abuse, Behavior Modification, Thought Reform > Hyde Schools
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Ursus:
--- Quote from: "gomerperry" ---"Brother's Keeper" is a way of taddle tailing o kids you don't like, and then the war continues from there on out. I felt highly violated during my first family weekend, and felt the HAPA parents was highly intrusive into my personal business, and passed judgments quickly on everyone in the room. I have no idea what gives an untrained person the "leadership skills" to run basically a group therapy session.
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Brother's Keeper is, to *my* mind, a veritable blueprint for gangstalking. Yep, that good ol' "positive peer culture" does not end when you leave Hyde. It continues under the rubric of the alumni network whether you graduated or not, and it keeps tabs on you, and continues to pass judgment on you, possibly for your lifetime. :D
As to those seminars or disco groups (or whatever vernacular they're using these days for what goes on during family weekends), it's "group therapy" alright, but a special kind: the confrontational encounter group. (See also)
--- Quote from: "gomerperry" ---Against doctor's order they are making me tell my life's story here after such a short time, so "people can get to know me". Bullshit. I don't want to know anyone here, and I think this environment is becoming highly toxic. They have brainwashed people into thinking confrontation is the only solution to every problem. The kids are really mean, and I honestly feel like I have gotten dumber just from my little time here.
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I have to say, in all fairness, that most of those kids are probably not "mean" per se, but are merely trying to behave in accordance with what is expected of them at Hyde. They are "trying to survive," and hopefully one day graduate. Those are the rules of the game there. The simple virtue of kindness rarely gets rewarded, and may even be held with suspicion. Notice that EMPATHY is not one of the "5 Words" or principles.
I'm not sure how things are run at the present moment, but there have been, in the past, kids who were even court ordered to Hyde, and who really had very little choice as to whether or not they capitulated when going through those motions. Life at Hyde also, over time, envelops you in a very corrosive atmosphere, or "therapeutic milieu," and it gets under your skin before ya know it, and more than you realize, the longer you are there.
Imo, Hyde's system or setup of "group dynamics" is eminently supportive of and, quite frankly, selects for sociopathic tendencies. What all this says about what kind of "character" values Hyde is trying to impart to its students and the type of group relations that evolve out of that environment is... not too flattering an assessment.
And yes, you probably have gotten dumber. Probably measurably so. The consequence laden dogma, let alone the piss-poor academics, pretty much squelches any critical thinking not in keeping with their "teachings." But that can be repaired with time and assiduous focus on relearning logical reasoning skills.
Ursus:
--- Quote from: "gomerperry" ---My mom and I have mutually agreed that it is in the best interest of our relationship and my sanity to withdraw from Hyde. I know for a fact they will try to guilt-trip us into thinking that by leaving we are "running away from our problems" but I think this place is proving to a major problem, regardless. A lot of kids here are emotionally unstable, and I don't think having a know it all teacher and some "character education" is really going to fix their problems. "Character education" is really an idea of long ago that doesn't apply to teenagers of today.
I think the staff is highly hypocritical, and the fact some of them are "lifers" at Hyde with their own fair share of problems is not a good idea, or mix with some highly troubled students.
I'm sorry but I don't believe anything they tell me, but am just playing along until I can leave.
Now my question for former parents/students:
How hard was it for you to withdraw from Hyde? What challenges did you face, and what would you expect from them-- if someone has only been there a short time is already leaving?
This place is truly a cult, and "leadership" my ass.
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My suggestion would be a two-pronged approach: solidify the plan as to where you're going to next, and damage control as to where you currently are. Your mother will be the primary facilitator as to the next step, i.e., making arrangements and so forth as to where you'll hopefully be soon.
As to damage control, you should know that, and be reassured that, the degree of invasiveness that Hyde can get away with is limited by your own self-respect and belief system. Which is to say, you have every right to limit it should you feel the necessity for and, effectively, see fit to do so.
Yes, they are gonna give you grief, pass judgment, and pronounce dire physical and psychological consequences. Nevertheless, ultimately, unless you second guess yourself (easier said than done), this will hopefully not amount to squat in the long run.
I say "hopefully," 'cause historically there have been severe incidences of abuse with ramifications that were long-lasting if not permanent. You need to keep your head, respect and heed your gut instincts and perspective, and get elsewhere as soon as you can.
It has been reported that Hyde has delayed release of transcripts beyond all practical utilization. Whether this is a punitive maneuver or simply the result of incompetence is anyone's guess. I'd wager that it depends on the particular situation, and that all causal factors can be assumed to weigh in in varying percentage.
Optimally, you will be able to put some other school (a "real" school) between your time at Hyde and whatever institution of higher learning would ordinarily be your next step. Unfortunately, what you are going through now may well prove to be a very painful learning experience for you, as Hyde School is NOT what they claim to be. They are, most assuredly (IMO), a behavior modification program masquerading as a prep school. I don't care how much they may twist families' minds re. the so-called idealistic dogma, sports participation, dinner dress codes and whatnot, they ARE, unequivocally, a particularly insidious thought reform institution bar none.
I wish you the very best of luck.
cmack:
I wonder if he was successful in extricating himself from Hyde. Hopefully we'll get an update from him someday.
Ursus:
--- Quote from: "cmack" ---I wonder if he was successful in extricating himself from Hyde. Hopefully we'll get an update from him someday.
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I suspect that Hyde, as per usual protocol, will probably refuse to return tuition monies already paid. This despite the extreme misrepresentation that appears to have gone on. I would hope that they aren't still doing this, but I'm not too optimistic 'bout that likelihood. For all we know, enrollment might be down a lil this year.
xhydeparent:
Please contact me if you need someone to help. I will talk with you and your parents. I had a son and daughter at Hyde this year also that we removed within 4 weeks of school starting. Please know that they is support out there to get out.
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