In our culture we believe in teaching while being present. Advice from outside is welcome as parenting is learning-by-mistakes. Teenagers of today don't face the same challenges as we did when we were teenagers. I find as a parent that the hardest problem to solve is to break through the massive amount of background noise we have chosen to surround ourselves with. We need to be totally off-line and it is during these breaks the family unit can reconnect.
So how do you get such a chance to bring yourself and your daughter into place where there is total isolation? Remember not even you may have a phone people who know you can use.
One way is to do it with a therapist on the side. Another is just to go far away from the drug suppliers and let a foreign field do the job.
Short term programs do work if there is a plan for the long-term move. And here is the root of the problems concerning most of the residential solutions. They just don't care about aftercare. You cannot remove a person from the society without creating a need for this person to be re-integrated into the society.
When some of researchers look on parent-message boards like conductdisorders, we find story after story about young adults who have used their teenage years in a restricted setting only to be dumped at home or on the streets once the turn 18.
If I were in your shoes I would seek a short term program or simply a wilderness vacation with a guide (in Norway or Sweden, because I am from Denmark). I would aim at getting my child away from our community for at least 3 weeks.
But I would never start out with a wilderness program!. I would see to that redrawals from possible addictions are dealt with in a safe environment and the wilderness is not such a place if we take into account how many teenagers who have died out there.
If detox is an issue it would take 7-10 days. It doesn't take a genius to do a cold turkey, but have medics on speed dial just in case. It would take 3 adults to be on watch 24/7 - properly some muscles in the family. Do you have access to cabin somewhere?
Step 2 would be a wilderness experience. Most we have charted on the Wiki are involved in a financial kick-back system where they get money for referring kids to boarding schools. Don't listen to them. The goal must be a third phase where your daughter can attend a kind of normal school with periodic out-patient therapy when needed.
Step 3 is aftercare. It needs to be planned because in reality it is here the entire project is won or lost. You may have to ask yourself: Is the high school providing a healthy environment for your daughter? Can she focus her energy on something beside school? Personally I wouldn't hesitate to let my children live by relatives out of town, but of course the best solution would be if I could get them to accept therapy and counseling while living at home. Remember you have to find a therapist now and not wait until you return home.
Here are two wilderness programs which we at the present time don't believe are taking referral fees. If we are wrong and they start talking boarding school or anything else finish the program and then leave. They cannot force or manipulate anything with you as an adult present:
http://www.soltreks.com/program-family.htmhttp://yahwehwildernessexpeditions.com/courses.htmTo our knowledge they have not have any deaths yet and in order to keep it like that it has to be a family expedition. I know one of them is maybe too faith-based but at least then you will have something to laugh at on your trip back home. They are shorter than the normal 30-60 days wilderness programs and for a good reason. They are step 2 instead of step 1. The resistance against working for a change is broken in the safe combination of family and isolation at the cabin.
I will pray for any improvement of your situation.
Please write back if you have additional questions.