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Anonymous:

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--- Quote ---But it is a good example of how the aleged adults in our society seem to have lost all sense and reason when it comes to raising kids
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It is not only that they have lost all sense and reason but an overwhelming need to be in control.  And...not just a need to be in control... but a need to be in control of others.  



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Most parents don't admit their child to a program to be in control.  They've lost all control and look for short term fixes - when that doesn't work, they admit to the results-based programs that there is no set time limit.  Some realize their role in the breakdown, some don't.  In wwasps the parents are given tons of opportunities to do their own "work" - can't make them do it if they don't think they had any role in the breakdown.  And, like you said, some parents need to be in control - maybe by sending a clear message to their child they aren't going to lower their standards to fit their teens behaviors - some need to be in control of their teen's behavior even when they are away.  No freaking wonder you hear of teens coming home and crashing!  They have learned to be in control of themselves and upon returning home, their parents don't trust them to do it "right."  Sad situation, then they get shipped off again and the parents blame the program for what happened.  

These kids are not loved deprived or isolated in many ways.  Yes, they are not being hugged by mommy and daddy, but they are being hugged by the staff, loved by the staff and as many have said, they had the best most honest friends they ever had while in the program.  They were understood by someone, or many, for the first time in their lives.  

Mommy and daddy need work - and many do - but they think it's over when their child comes home.  It really is just beginning as a family.  Why do so many parents expect the program to FIX their family.  The family must choose to let go of what hasn't worked in the past, find a way to make it work and continue using that mindset once they are home.  Healthy - they must maintain the "exercise and vitamins" for a lifetime and make a conscious choice to respect boundaries and each other's differences.  It ain't over on graduation day.  WWASP has aftercare workshops for some refreshers if needed and also the coaching is a way to keep the communication going in a healthy direction.  

What I know to be true is that I don't know everything! :razz:

Anonymous:
No, Program Parent, the truth is you don't know anything except how to play follow the leader.  Big deal, I learned that in grade school.

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Anonymous:

--- Quote ---On 2003-10-13 23:06:00, Anonymous wrote:

"No, Program Parent, the truth is you don't know anything except how to play follow the leader.  Big deal, I learned that in grade school.



 :rofl: "

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And what grade are you in now?

Anonymous:

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On 2003-10-13 23:12:00, Anonymous wrote:

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On 2003-10-13 23:06:00, Anonymous wrote:


"No, Program Parent, the truth is you don't know anything except how to play follow the leader.  Big deal, I learned that in grade school.





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