Wonder Man,
Seriously, Ursus is 100% correct. I've dealt with several consultants and they are only interested in one thing...cash.
After they are paid, they tend to go away no matter what your or your child's pressing needs may be. That is unless you are willing to fork over more cash. Remeber some of the consultants have kids in these schools and either are paid directly for their services or get a month or two of free tuition for their kid.
You are like many of us, desperately looking for solutions to help your child or your adopted/foster child, looking for the professionals to help, provide a solution, give you answers or more tools to deal with the child. You need to be prepared for the truth, and the truth is that no-one will care for your child like you will, period!!! (assuming that is you really love them)!!!
No matter what the past, or the abuse, because we have dealt with it all...and I mean it all, it can be fixed if you and the child are willing. The trick is, both of you need to be willing to work it out. If one isn't, it doesn't matter if you send your kid to Mars, it won't work until both are willing...there is your profound advice.
You need to look for solutions within your own household, there are other alternatives if the child is at risk if you are in fear of a tragedy or the child may hurt themselves or others. I really don't care what the professionals say, in many cases they are just flat out wrong, or have ulterior motives....like....separating you with your CASH.
The ugly truth is the trust of care only lasts as long as the cash keeps flowing. You are aware that your child only gets miniminal actual licensed therapy, right? Approx. 90% of the the time is spent doing other activities, including custodial and landscaping duties. So are you OK with your child providing captive labor to this school while you are forking over a very substantial sum of money? Oh wait, I thought the whole ideal was actual therapy, not labor camps or summer camp, right?
I can't tell you right now what worked for us, but it definately wasn't CALO, no matter what the professionals said or how well they pushed their marketing propaganda. There are others like me too. After all our experiences telling you otherwise, testimonials if you will from those that have been there. Why would you believe some moron "professional" lining their own pockets at yours and your childs expense?
I don't have anything to sell you like these so called "professionals", but I will have the guts to tell you the truth.
As far as my strategies and motives....leave that to me if you please....I'm a big person...I also appreciate much of the advice and I do know what I'm doing....I've considered all the ramifications and will take a calculated risk to expose my truth. You also need to consider that I feel it is my duty to inform others of the truth so they won't be hurt by these "professionals" like we have.
CG
