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Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?

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Anonymous:

--- Quote ---1.Have you ever felt a sexual attraction to children or underage teenagers (a boy or girl 17 years old or younger)?
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Then we're all pedos.

Inculcated:
To Previous:
Unless you are speaking of having felt such as an adolescent, (when such would be age appropriate)
Then your “we” is erroneously presumptuous and nauseating.
FYI:
Dr. Matthew Ferrara in “Lifestyle Enhancement and Development (2000)” describes deviant
sexual behaviour as behaviour that meets one or more of the subsequent criteria:
Sexual contact with a person under the legal age of consent (17 years old); sexual
contact with a person who is unable to give consent; sexual contact that is forced,
aggressive, causes physical harm, is coerced, uses intimidation or deceit,
or sexual contact that is harmful or degrading.

Inculcated:

--- Quote from: "AuntieEm2" ---Great post about boundaries, etc., Inculcated.

While children need info on how to protect themselves and how to report, we adults should take greater responsibility for protecting children before they are harmed. Most importantly, adults must take responsibility for their own behavior. See also http://http://www.stopitnow.org for more information.
Helpline is available Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. CST. People who understand are waiting to help. Or visit http://www.stopitnow.org.
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Thank you, my post was intended to illustrate the dangers of CALO methods.
Children should never have their right to assert their boundaries taken from them.
To do so is damaging (abusive in and of itself) and leaves a dangerous vulnerability within that child.


--- Quote from: "bobpeterson1973" ---The staff members at CALO utilize therapeutic touch during processing and coaching moments. Philosophically, we believe that students need appropriate touch in their lives. They may reject this touch initially but almost always become accustomed to, and usually desire, this form of connection which furthers the attachment and healing in students.
http://caloteens.com/milieu.aspx

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SEX OFFENDER BEHAVIORS
Sex offenders typically have developed complicated and persistent psychological and social
systems constructed to assist them in denying and minimizing the harm they inflict on
others, and often they are very accomplished at presenting others a façade designed to
conceal the truth about themselves (English 1996).
 Cognitive distortions allow the sex offender to justify, rationalize, and minimize the
impact of their deviant behaviour.

AuntieEm2:
Apologies to the OP for the detour.

Guest, I do understand the context of your comment ("we are all pedos"). I do. That question is basic and may seem silly, but it's not the only question.

Children/teenagers are harmed when adults sexualize them. Our culture has made it seem normal to portray children as sexual objects, but it is damaging to the child, and to children as a whole growing up in our culture. The self assessment tool is intended to encourage adults to evaluate their own behavior and thoughts and understand there is another human being involved, and that sexual thoughts and actions towards a child are harmful to the child.

Child sexual abuse is classified as an epidemic in our country by the Centers for Disease Control. 1 in 5 girls, and 1 in 8-10 boys are sexually abused in this country. 30-50% of those who sexually abuse children are under 18. Perhaps 1 in 5 people who abuse are women.

Those who struggle with sexual thoughts and behaviors towards children are not some monsters who come out of nowhere. They are our neighbors, fathers, brothers, mothers, sisters, grandparents, children, trusted community members, coworkers, spouses, etc.--in other words, people who look and act just like you and me. The first step is to recognize the harm to the child, and to take responsiblity for one's actions.

As adults, we need to do a better job of protecting children. That starts with an honest assessment of our own thoughts and actions.

Auntie Em

AuntieEm2:
Deleted duplicate post.

Em

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