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Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« on: June 25, 2009, 07:44:43 PM »
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Therapeutic Touch

Therapeutic touch is often initiated by the placement of a staff member’s hand on a student’s “safe zone” during a conversation. This “safe zone” consists of the student’s body from one elbow, across their upper back, and down to the other elbow. The “safe zone” region was established as the areas on the body that are least likely to elicit a sexual response, transmit a sexual message or be intrusive or traumatizing to the student in any way.

The staff members at CALO utilize therapeutic touch during processing and coaching moments. Philosophically, we believe that students need appropriate touch in their lives. They may reject this touch initially but almost always become accustomed to, and usually desire, this form of connection which furthers the attachment and healing in students.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #1 on: June 25, 2009, 09:57:15 PM »
Hmmm,That reminds me of something...
x Respect a child’s “no”. Do not force a child to hug or shake hands
SEX OFFENDER BEHAVIORS
Not all sex offenders share all of the following characteristics, and the absence of a particular
characteristic does not mean the individual is not a sex offender (English 1996).
Secrecy and dishonesty is a major component of sex offending behavior. Sex crimes flourish
in deception and silence.
Sex offenders typically have developed complicated and persistent psychological and social
systems constructed to assist them in denying and minimizing the harm they inflict on
others,
and often they are very accomplished at presenting others a façade designed to
conceal the truth about themselves (English 1996).
x Cognitive distortions allow the sex offender to justify, rationalize, and minimize the
impact of their deviant behavior
x Power play-“It is my way or the highway.” “I will dominate and control others.”
x Entitlement- “The world owes me.” “I am superior.”
x Hop Over-“I do not answer questions when I know the answer is unpleasant.”
x Blaming- “I blame others so I can avoid responsibility for my actions.”
x Minimizing- “I only fondled the child.” “It wasn’t intrinsically harmful.”
x Secretiveness-“I use secrecy to control others and continue being deviant.”
x Sex offenders are highly manipulative and will triangulate/split those around them.
The skills used to manipulate victims are employed to manipulate family members,
friends, co-workers, supervision officers, treatment providers, and case managers.

x Grooming activities are not solely for potential victims. Offenders will groom
parents to obtain access to their children.
x Grooming is well-organized and can be long term.
x The longer a sex offender knows an individual the better they are at “zeroing in”
their grooming (“I can read people like a book. I know what others need and I am
available to help out”.)
x The longer a sex offender is on supervision the higher the probability staff will lose
their objectivity.
x Sex offenders are generally personable and seek to “befriend” those around them
(“My smile is my entrée”. “I ‘m like a salesman but I’m never off work”.)
x Sex offenders will continually test boundaries (personal/professional space).
x Sex offenders exploit relationships and social norms to test boundaries.
x Sex offenders seek professions that allow them access to victims.
. Cognitive distortions are :
thoughts and attitudes that allow offenders to justify, rationalize, and minimize the
impact of their deviant behavior. Cognitive distortions allow the adult sex offenders
 to overcome prohibitions and progress from fantasy to behavior.
These distorted thoughts provide the adult sex offenders with an excuse to engage in deviant
sexual behavior, and serve to reduce guilt and responsibility.
Dr. Matthew Ferrara in “Lifestyle Enhancement and Development (2000)” describes deviant
sexual behavior as behavior that meets one or more of the subsequent criteria:
Sexual contact with a person under the legal age of consent (17 years old); sexual
contact with a person who is unable to give consent; sexual contact that is forced,

aggressive, causes physical harm, is coerced, uses intimidation or deceit,
or sexual contact that is harmful or degrading.
________________________________________
RISK REDUCTION TIPS FOR PARENTS
x Think safety first.
x Be informed and know your local resources.
x Be active in your community. Get to know your neighbors.
x Never assume your child could not be molested, missing, or abducted.
x Build your child’s self-esteem. A child who has low self-esteem is more easily lured.
x Teach and practice decision making with your child.
x Build support systems. Children need to know where to go for help.
x Carefully interview, screen, and check caregivers.
x Teach age appropriate information regarding physical and sexual abuse.
x Use age appropriate role-playing with children. Play “what if” games.
x Develop a family code for emergency situations.
x Respect a child’s “no”. Do not force a child to hug or shake hands.
x Never leave young children unattended.
x Establish ground rules for your child when answering the telephone.
x Teach and have emergency contact numbers easily accessible.
x Teach your child to screen telephone calls through the answering machine or caller
ID.
x Monitor all computer use. Use parental controls.
________________________________________
Council on Sex Offender Treatment
1100 West 49th street
Austin, Texas 78756-3183
Phone: (512) 834-4530 Fax: (512) 834-4511
Email: http://www.tdh.state.tx.us/hcqs/plc/csot.htm
REFERENCES:
Andrews, D., Bonta, J., & Hoge, R.D. (1990) “Classification for effective rehabilitation:
Rediscovering psychology”. Criminal Justice and Behavior, 17, 19-52
Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (2003) Practice Standards and Guidelines
for the Members of the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers
Bonta, J., (1997-2001), “Offender Rehabilitation: From research to practice”, Ministry of the
Solicitor General of Canada
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #2 on: June 25, 2009, 10:13:48 PM »
Grooming activities are not solely for potential victims. Offenders will groom
parents to obtain access to their children.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #3 on: June 26, 2009, 04:39:09 PM »
Boundaries and Child's Personal Safety
Respecting children’s personal boundaries teaches them how they should expect to be treated. When adults cross children’s boundaries, it compromises their sense of safety and security.  
Examples of crossing physical boundaries:
•   Insisting children hug or kiss others
•   Holding or hugging when the child resists
•   Continuing to touch a child when they don’t want you to
•   Hitting a child
Understanding the Risks:
Child sexual offenders often try to break personal boundaries, gain trust and normalize sexual activity between adults and children.
Children with an understanding of personal boundaries are more likely to disrupt the grooming process, thereby reducing their risk of sexual exploitation.
Physical boundaries:
Physical boundaries determine who may touch you, how much
they may touch you, and where they may touch you.

How do child molesters gain access to children?
They often seek positions where they would be entrusted
with the care of children.

They find jobs that give them access to children in other
ways.
How do child molesters get away with molesting children?
They look like everyone else.
They gain the trust of parents.
They gain the trust of children.


Teach children what to do if someone tries to violate
their boundaries.

1. They can tell the person to stop!
2. They can get away from the person.
3. They can tell their parents.
4. They can tell another adult who can protect them.

Teach — our children they can talk to us about
anything.
Strong communication is the foundation for helping children
stay safe. Ensure healthy communication with your children: Maintain open lines of communication

Copyright 2006 Praesidium | http://www.PraesidiumInc
http://www.kidsintheknow.ca/app/en/boundaries_sheet_p6
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #4 on: June 26, 2009, 05:50:41 PM »
Great post about boundaries, etc., Inculcated.

While children need info on how to protect themselves and how to report, we adults should take greater responsibility for protecting children before they are harmed. Most importantly, adults must take responsibility for their own behavior. See also http://http://www.stopitnow.org for more information.

SELF ASSESSMENT
Twelve Questions Only You Can Answer
If you are wondering about your own sexual thoughts and behaviors toward children, we encourage you to answer these questions honestly. They are designed to help you decide whether you may need help.  

Answer YES or NO to the Following Questions

1.Have you ever felt a sexual attraction to children or underage teenagers (a boy or girl 17 years old or younger)?
2.Have you kept secrets from others about your attractions to children or underage teens?
3.Have you looked at or purchased pornography that showed children or underage teens?
4.Have you ever secretly watched children or underage teens (window peeping or voyeurism) or exposed yourself (exhibitionism) to children or underage teens?
5.Have you bought children or underage teens gifts, or given them money, in order to get them to trust you and like you so you can touch them sexually, or get sexual good feelings from them?
6.Have you shown pornography (or material that is sexual in nature) to children or underage teens, or intentionally left it where they could find it?
7.Have you ever told yourself "age is just a number" or "he/she is mature for his/her age" or something similar to make yourself feel better about your sexual thoughts or behaviors toward children or underage teens?
8.Have you ever wanted to stop fantasizing about or touching children or underage teens in a sexual way, or looking at child pornography, but did it again?
9.Do you find that romantic/sexual fantasies about, or sexual behavior toward, children or underage teens interfere with your relationships at home or work?
10.Does your sexual attraction to children or underage teens conflict with your spiritual beliefs or moral values?
11.Has your sexual attraction to children ever left you feeling worried, frightened, ashamed, hopeless, different, alienated from others, or suicidal?
12.Have you ever felt that your life would be better if you were not sexually attracted to children or underage teens?

Did you answer YES to more than one question? If so, we encourage you to call Stop It Now!'s SAFE AND CONFIDENTIAL 1.888.PREVENT (1-888-773-8368) Helpline for more information. Our Helpline is available Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. CST. People who understand are waiting to help. Or visit http://www.stopitnow.org.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #5 on: June 26, 2009, 05:55:24 PM »
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1.Have you ever felt a sexual attraction to children or underage teenagers (a boy or girl 17 years old or younger)?

Then we're all pedos.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #6 on: June 26, 2009, 06:21:05 PM »
To Previous:
Unless you are speaking of having felt such as an adolescent, (when such would be age appropriate)
Then your “we” is erroneously presumptuous and nauseating.
FYI:
Dr. Matthew Ferrara in “Lifestyle Enhancement and Development (2000)” describes deviant
sexual behaviour as behaviour that meets one or more of the subsequent criteria:
Sexual contact with a person under the legal age of consent (17 years old); sexual
contact with a person who is unable to give consent; sexual contact that is forced,
aggressive, causes physical harm, is coerced, uses intimidation or deceit,
or sexual contact that is harmful or degrading.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #7 on: June 26, 2009, 06:34:06 PM »
Quote from: "AuntieEm2"
Great post about boundaries, etc., Inculcated.

While children need info on how to protect themselves and how to report, we adults should take greater responsibility for protecting children before they are harmed. Most importantly, adults must take responsibility for their own behavior. See also http://http://www.stopitnow.org for more information.
Helpline is available Monday through Friday from 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. CST. People who understand are waiting to help. Or visit http://www.stopitnow.org.

Thank you, my post was intended to illustrate the dangers of CALO methods.
Children should never have their right to assert their boundaries taken from them.
To do so is damaging (abusive in and of itself) and leaves a dangerous vulnerability within that child.

Quote from: "bobpeterson1973"
The staff members at CALO utilize therapeutic touch during processing and coaching moments. Philosophically, we believe that students need appropriate touch in their lives. They may reject this touch initially but almost always become accustomed to, and usually desire, this form of connection which furthers the attachment and healing in students.
http://caloteens.com/milieu.aspx
SEX OFFENDER BEHAVIORS
Sex offenders typically have developed complicated and persistent psychological and social
systems constructed to assist them in denying and minimizing the harm they inflict on
others, and often they are very accomplished at presenting others a façade designed to
conceal the truth about themselves (English 1996).
 Cognitive distortions allow the sex offender to justify, rationalize, and minimize the
impact of their deviant behaviour.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #8 on: June 26, 2009, 06:41:05 PM »
Apologies to the OP for the detour.

Guest, I do understand the context of your comment ("we are all pedos"). I do. That question is basic and may seem silly, but it's not the only question.

Children/teenagers are harmed when adults sexualize them. Our culture has made it seem normal to portray children as sexual objects, but it is damaging to the child, and to children as a whole growing up in our culture. The self assessment tool is intended to encourage adults to evaluate their own behavior and thoughts and understand there is another human being involved, and that sexual thoughts and actions towards a child are harmful to the child.

Child sexual abuse is classified as an epidemic in our country by the Centers for Disease Control. 1 in 5 girls, and 1 in 8-10 boys are sexually abused in this country. 30-50% of those who sexually abuse children are under 18. Perhaps 1 in 5 people who abuse are women.

Those who struggle with sexual thoughts and behaviors towards children are not some monsters who come out of nowhere. They are our neighbors, fathers, brothers, mothers, sisters, grandparents, children, trusted community members, coworkers, spouses, etc.--in other words, people who look and act just like you and me. The first step is to recognize the harm to the child, and to take responsiblity for one's actions.

As adults, we need to do a better job of protecting children. That starts with an honest assessment of our own thoughts and actions.

Auntie Em
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #9 on: June 26, 2009, 06:41:27 PM »
Deleted duplicate post.

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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #10 on: June 27, 2009, 07:20:41 AM »
This info is freely available on the CALO website. Doesn't all this "therapeutic touch" thing raise any red flags with these parents? Are any more hints needed that CALO is potentially a very dangerous place for children?
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #11 on: June 27, 2009, 07:42:54 AM »
Quote from: "Lilith"
This info is freely available on the CALO website. Doesn't all this "therapeutic touch" thing raise any red flags with these parents? Are any more hints needed that CALO is potentially a very dangerous place for children?

Hasn't Ken Huey performed many 'red-flag touches' on minors already?  Sounds like he set up shop so he can have access to easy victims.
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #12 on: June 29, 2009, 02:09:15 AM »
Understanding and asserting the right to say “Step off perv’!”

 It is important to teach children how to prevent or avoid an incident of abuse, but it is hard to do so without frightening them.(Red flag touches are those that cause a person to feel scared, mixed up, or unhappy.)

Children are taught a three-step method to use in the event they find themselves in a Red Flag situation or if they receive a Red Flag touch.  The steps are as follows:
   
1.)    Say No
If someone tries to give you a Red Flag touch, say NO and don’t let that person touch you.

2.)    Get Away
If someone tries to give you a Red Flag touch, get away.  Run someplace safe where there are other people.

3.)    Tell a someone you trust
If someone tries to give you a Red Flag touch, tell someone you trust right away.

Remember: It’s not your fault if someone gives you a red flag touch
You need to tell someone about the touches that make you feel mixed up, even if you were told to keep it a secret.
http://www.raccfm.com/EducationandPreve ... fault.aspx

Does anyone know where the hell these callow CALO people get off rationalizing their undermining of these children’s boundaries and intuition?
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #13 on: June 29, 2009, 10:51:43 PM »
well i can tell you what is NOT one of the safe zones @ calo ( bob )
it appears as the article will tell you below ,
no reason to stay out of the water cause of JAWs, no.

well here ) read for yourselves

Lake Ozark Beaches Closed Due to E-Coli(Calo will consider theirs unaffected -private beach and all) as if the water doesn't all come from the same place .... lol
Edited by: JoBeth Davis, Intern
June 23, 2009

LAKE OF THE OZARKS, MO - A high concentration of e-coli in the Lake of the Ozarks caused the Department of Natural Resources to shut down the lake's public beaches. But locals said other than signs on the land entrance to the beach, there was no notification posted. For many, that meant they didn't find out about the contamination until after they had already come into contact with the water.(We know calo certainly will not pay any attention to any signs anyway ) these poor kids  

Swimmers said the signs warning people about the bacteria were too small to be seen. John Reed of Belton said he approached the beach from his boat and there were no signs anywhere that he could read.

The DNR said the lake tested high for counts of the e-coli bacteria. They attribute this to water run-off from recent storms and a large flock of geeseYeah flock of geese my ass ------lets try all the thousands of boats dropping their plumbing debris in the lake i'd be insulted if I was a goose . They will continue testing the water and will re-open the beaches when the bacteria levels return to where body contact is safe. Oh ya really think ? somebody better be sure and inform calo ceo of this ((Not that it will keep kaleb kottle and them kids there from swimming like frogs in it



oh well I repeat stay out of the water @ the lake  :peace:
If your kids get staph infection or sick and die  , don't say I didn't warn you  :deal:
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Re: Therapeutic touch: What is the safe zone at CALO?
« Reply #14 on: July 07, 2009, 01:06:27 AM »
I've heard stories about CALO cooks feeding the kids infected meat. Did this happen?
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