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10 residential treatment centers
Anonymous:
--- Quote from: "Guest" ---Agreed with Psy. Get a fucking lawyer. And get your mother on Fornits.
BTW, what the fuck makes you post TEN different places? What, are your parents fucking shopping around for this shit?
Hey, Anya's mom! You're playing five-bullet Russian Roulette with your kid and trying to blindly guess at the right chamber! How does that make you feel?
--- End quote ---
Hey, I just copied the list from an email my mom got from the case worker. They sent my information to those places and I could end up at any one of them I guess.
Anonymous:
"Case worker"? Since when the hell did case workers of ANY sort start sending personal information to hellholes?!
Okay, Anya- tell this one to us from the top, aight? Details. Who, what, when, why. And how old you are. But nothing personally identifiable, not in public. It's safe with Psy, Femanon, and Ginger.
And it sounds like you REALLY need a lawyer, and a certain caseworker needs to get fired.
psy:
Yes. Even if you get sent to a program, you *need* to stay in constant uncensored contact with the outiside world, ESPECIALLY, if the program wants to cut it off... even for a short while. This is probably the most vital thing I can say. If you leave with nothing else, remember to have an attorney contact you on a regular (preferably daily) basis in complete confidence (no staff listening). YOU must retain the attorney to have atty-client privilege. If you haven't done this yet, you should get around to it. If you can't afford an attorney on your own, contact me and I can help you find one willing to at least retain you pro-bono.
Once you retain counsel, the program would be breaking the law by interfering with or monitoring your communication with your attorney. This sets up an unrestricted contact with the outside world (even outside parental channels), which is VITAL for your safety. It's best if you don't get sent to a program, but if you must, make SURE you do this, so that you can contact the outside world. Even if it's a "bad" program, they won't give you nearly as hard a time if they know you have an attorney.
FemanonFatal2.0:
I second the lawyer option. its the only way that anyone who is on your side will be able to gain access to you once you enter the facility.
Another thing you should do is find out if this "case worker" is really an Educational Consultant, to help maybe you can post her name and contact info here on fornits (I would first advise you not to copy this information from your mothers email, but google that woman's name and post any contact info you can find on a public source)
My best advice to a child who feels there in impending incarceration is to buy yourself time by talking to your parents about the dangers of the troubled teen industry and please try to stay on your best behavior, obey the law and try to work with your parents.
I don't recommend bringing your parents to Fornits (some posters here dont receive "program" parents very well here) but rather if you think they are willing to speak to survivors then lead them to get in touch with one of us personally. I think more than a few of us would be willing to speak to your parents, I know I would, as Psy is as well usually up for the challenge. (if Im not being too bold to offer your assistance, please let her know what you would be willing to do to help communicate with the parents.)
blombrowski:
Hey Anya,
A little background. The ten schools that have been listed are all in New York State, they are all licensed by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services (unlike Family Foundation School), and they are all accredited by the New York Board of Regents (unlike the Academy at Ivy Ridge - now closed). They stretch out from Albany to Eastern Long Island. Maybe you're not from Long Island, but I imagine you're somewhere from Southern New York, for those ten schools to be the ones chosen by your "case worker".
To my knowledge, to be admitted to any of these schools you actually have to be interviewed before you are simply accepted. The prospect of escort services are unlikely (not impossible though). Unless things are more FUBAR than I imagined, you have some time before anything actually happens.
Now, I put "case worker" in quotes because that term is usually reserved for youth in foster care, and you said that it was your mom who is planning on sending you there. This could mean a few things, and depending on what you mean, would change how you would want to approach this situation.
1. Your mom is actually your foster mom. If this is the case, get in touch with your legal guardian ASAP.
2. Your "case worker" is actually your case manager at your day treatment program or your social worker at your school. You can fight your placement. Then again, you might be at the point that you want to go to a residential program, you just don't want to inadvertantly end up in a hell hole. There may be options you haven't been offered yet, or haven't explored. At the very least you want to take a sober look at what's available. Of the ten schools you've listed you have bad options and you have worse options, I leave open the possibility that they may be better than everything that's already been tried, but even the "best" program on this list has either had a death at the program or girls have been raped at the program or you can expect to probably spend the rest of your high school days at the program.
3. Your "case worker" is actually a probation officer/PINS worker. In that case you may not have an option since the court is involved and you really do need to look at what is the least bad option.
4. Your "case worker" really is an educational consultant, although given the schools that were listed, they would most likely be working with a school district, and your IEP has already been changed to reflect that you "need" a residential placement.
5. You "case worker" really is an educational consultant and for some strange reason bypassed all of the WWASP and ASPEN programs, and just decided to refer your mom to ten schools locally that she could pay directly.
Some basic information like the stuff presented above would help greatly in giving you advice for what to do next:
Mainly the following questions:
1. What county do you live in
2. Are you in foster care
3. Are you on probation or have a PINS case
4. Have you been to an IEP meeting recently
5. What's the reason why you're being sent to a residential program
6. What have you and your family tried so far
7. How did you find this website
I second Fem and Psy's suggestion, as far as getting a lawyer and speaking to your parents, but only if that route would actually be helpful in this situation, which we can only know based on the information above.
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