It seems that you have some really good friends. It's hard to remember to know that a little thing is a little thing, everything always becomes over-inspecteed and therefore magnified. I am still a believer with what Stina said" Generally nothing good does come from leaving my house" that's true and very sad.
I wanted to respond mostly to this though:
"anyway it was an eye opener so i figured i would share it with you all since of all people you may actually understand what it is like to feel an unfamiliar urge, wanting to do something that you don't feel lines up with who you feel you are... acting out and realizing later, o wait, that wasnt me, that was rudy fucking benz's voice coming out of my mouth, sorry! did i vomit on you? i am so sorry"
There was more than within five years after leaving Idaho that I thought an environment that I was in was safe for "rap" activity. I began by reminding everyone that we were in an "especially safe" place and asked if I could be honest. NATURALLY everyone said Yes. Their mistake.
I made an enemy out of every person in the room and looked like an insane person to my friends that were also there. My instincts were right in some ways, but the execution, well, I didn't even think about another option, that was THE WAY to do what I did.
Also, we are pissed, people. We carry anger and bank our hurt in a way that is NOT normal, and has been trained, somewhat. We're a little skewed from most people BECAUSE of these self introspection, identifying, anger, honesty, friendship, and frustration levels with everyone else- issues, that's CEDU in my opinion. It's surely a factor, and here I always try to please everyone, but Alia, those people mostly won't understand the intricacies of your feelings in relationships to others as much as we will.
They really can't totally if they've not been there done that.
Maybe a really good film, play, book, or movie, can help, but I already know that without MUSIC in my book, I can't capture everything, it's impossible as it is describing it to someone who has never been there.
If they can't hear the screaming from simultaneous raps, and the yelling over the music in the propheets and the creepy creepy John Lennon from the workshops how can you tell them about writing your own epitaph, taking care of your feelings under duress twice a week, and walking in forty feet of snow with a sixty pound framepack on fucking snowshoes?... How could you expect anyone ELSE to really understand all that?
We are a tribe. What kind of tribe will we be?
so my group of friends have this thing called tribe. its an online posting site where we all talk online a lot. its fun.
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but we talked about it, me and my friend, i havent told her this part yet because i felt too scared at the time to admit but, but telling you maybe it will make it easier to tell her.
thanks for listening.
Why not invite Crystal to the forum, alia?