Once again you jump to my defense, but let me get this one. As a survivor, I am a sucessful, happily married mom and gramma, and while my son was a handful during his early to mid teens, I never once considered handing the job of raising my child to someone else. I taught him that actions come with consequences, but that fear had no place in a parent child relationship, and I tough-loved him right through his rebellion. I run two support and healing groups for survivors who have also fought the good fight to overcome the abuse they suffered. I will not candy coat it for you, some survivors only survive in the fact that they still draw air. Some were so horribly abused they will never recover, but most have come out the other side a little wiser, a little tougher, and a lot more outspoken. That seems to be the issue you have a problem with. I know as a parent to give any credibility to survivors you would have to except the guilt, and for some parents this is something they cannot do, but you as a parent, even if you were lied to, were not abused. You were not forced to kneel on pencils in a bathtub for over 8 hours and struck if you so much as tried to reposition your weight, you were not forced to brush you teeth until your gums bled for four days because you dared to ask for a new toothbrush, you were not raped and told that no one would believe you, you were not forced to eat food with bugs in it. So, yes while your trust was betrayed, your child was abused. Survivors who have come through and are willing to tell the story have earned the right, if you don't like it, don't listen, but don't you dare judge. And another thing, don't accuse people of being junkies, that is rude and demoralizing. I was sent to the program I was in, not for drug use, but because my father was a pedophile and my mom couldn't dump me back on him.