Too bad it was make-believe.
Wow!! Imagine if thewho made a comment like that after someone posted a story about their abusive experience. It wasnt that long ago everyone here was ready to string him up for disrespecting or not believing a survivor.
Now we have someone disrespecting a survivor (who had a positive time inside) and it seems to be okay. Just lots of bumps on other threads to move this one to the bottom and pretend it never happened.
It's just that a lot of us have been there. I was on pretraining for staff when I last split the program. Good many friends of mine were either staff or program true believers, sometimes for a matter of years or decades afterward. And a good many of us have studied the facts of the situation.
Some of the facts of the situation are these:
Most kids who land up in these places are not anywhere near fucked up in any way to need an out of home placement. Those who are fucked up going in generally wind up more fucked up in many ways coming out the other end. And, most compelling, consistently, generation after generation, our peers who's parents passed on the cultish program offer have made out better in life than those of us who's parents drank the kool aid.
But we pretty much all sounded just like the above guest at first, whether we actually believed what we were saying or were still just scared of getting put back in or disowned by our families.... or somewhere therein.
