Does anybody really consider the people they befriended in the program to be "friends" at this point in their life? I sure as heck don't. I don't want to talk to them, be around them, or any of it. The most I can take of them is this forum, and even then it gets tiring. Wow, I sound like an asshole, but it's just the way I feel. I also do not like people to walk behind me, or eat near me, or touch me, or really talk to me. I prefer to be left alone mostly. I think that's why the internet forums are so great for discussing personal and embarassing things like this. Has anyone tried talking about this stuff to their real life everyday friends? I have, and they tell me to shut the fuck up. They don't want to hear aout brainwashing kids, physical and sexual abuse, weird shit teens do when stressed beyond belief, the politics of jungle rules, what happens when kids are put in charge of other kids, and all the other fun stuff that comes along with programs. I think that is why its so important to have forums, and why Fornits specifically, is so useful. Program spefici forums, end up having the same social dynamic as the original program itself. The same strong personalities who took hold of hte program, take hold of the forum. This is the true value of fornits, in my own opinion, that is brings together survivors from many differnent programs. I enjoy reading the old timer survivors posts as much as the newer ones, and each one helps me in a strange way. But to sit in real life, and discuss this with people just doesn't work. Nobody wants to know about it. They don't want to be dragged down, because that's what it does. You delve in to this stuff, and don't tell me that it brings a positive effect intor your life, I know better. Talking to people who were at the same program, or same group as you is even more difficult, I think, because you canot be completely honest and say I hated all you motherfuckers and couldn't wait to get the fuck out. I hated the smell, I hated the stupid group meetings, I hated EVERYTHING including YOU. YOu just can't say that kind of shit. But I know that is the way a lot of people felt, including me. We fucking hated each other and only tolerated each other enough to pass the time, or whatever. A lot of people talk about having friends for life like war buddies, I just didn't get that experience.. wish I did. I want as far away from the program as possible. Meaning, I dont want friends who went to a program. I don't want to be drinking a beer, playing pool, and the topic of discussion to constantly be child abuse, brainwashing, and the fact we will probably never get over it. We just remind each other of the inevitable, that we are damaged goods and there really is nothing that can be done to fix that. I think we are all very divided in this way. That we never quite trust each other. Or wonder in the back of our heads, were you that upper level asshole I knew? There is no unity, no truth, and no conclusions. It's like getting on a roller coaster that has no perceivable end, you are just waiting for that final drop.. click.. click.. click... click.. click... I am getting nervous, how about you?