Hmm... Never alone communicating with parents. Daughter believes ASR not to be abusive (don't leave until you believe that...). Hey... A girl wrote a book about PV claiming it wasn't abusive... When you read what she went through in detail... it was abuse. but abuse is one of those thigns that was redefined... Where are the counterpoints here?
Oh it does not matter if there are mountains of evidence against ASR or not. The school is young. The milieu control is in place (that means communications) as well as other factors which make it easy to contain abuse if it did exist.
So you want to really know what happened. Go read some of what other survivors of ASR had to say, and ask your daughter about those specific allegations. My guess is you'd be surprised at what she doesn't consider abuse.
Very suspicious of these places I can see. It is for good reason, I am sure. But not all experiences need to be the same.
Look at it this way:
Abuse can be defined and it is also relative. Restraining a child in a car seat for 4 hours will be criminal in 100 years, now we call it safety and you get fined if they are not restrained. Go figure………
Now we count calories and we need to be within a certain range or it is abusive, which is great, I agree with it. But we are the most over weight country in the world (maybe not, I am guessing) so these numbers may change, lets not jump and put an abuse label on every parameter that defines comfort.
When I was young we didn’t have access to phones, period, abuse or no abuse. Now restricting access to a phone seems to be a problem for some people, next each person will need to be connected 24/7, which is great we can accommodate that. We just need to adjust and grow as these things get redefined.
Sorry… going on again… guess I don’t feel we need to define every parameter of our lives so closely. There are reasons for some of the phone restrictions so there should be some latitude given in some circumstances.
