That father's "love" isn't conditional. It's absent. It's a grotesque parody of parental love that makes me sick.
When you adopt a puppy, for god's sake, you are responsible for loving it until it dies---even if it turns out to be a dangerous biter and you have to put it down, you hold it at the vet's and pet it until the lights go out. If you can't give that dog unconditional love, you have no business being entrusted with a dog.
How much more are parents responsible for unconditionally loving our children? I don't ever want to even meet, much less socialize with, someone who's capable of ceasing to love their child--young or grown.
You love your child even if your child becomes a criminal, an axe murderer. You visit your kid in jail. You may not bail her out or make excuses for her, but you continue to love her because she's your kid---just like you continue to love the dog that turned out dangerous. You might not be able to protect her from the natural consequences of her actions, but she's yours and you keep loving--and visiting her--no matter what.
Does the 18 year old daughter have problems? Well, if she does, being raised by a man who's not fit to be entrusted with a dog just might have something to do with it.
What was her poor mother thinking when she hooked up with that souless bastard?
Julie