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Sex and MMS
Kerrybear:
--- Quote from: ""Guest"" ---Kerry,
I believe you meant grammar. I am glad you came out of that school stronger. Tina Turner came away from Ike with some strength once she recovered from the damage. That is one way to look at it.
Maybe I will go cruise the domestic violence courts and turn in my man for one who is going to ' make me strong'.
--- End quote ---
Dear Anonymous Guest,
Thanks for the spelling correction.
I believe that the difference lies in the fact that we never CHOSE MMS.
I was sent there, against my will.
So now that the experience is over, and I cannot change it, I choose to look at it as part of my past. AND ACCEPT IT. Not accepting that how I was treated was right, but just accepting that it happened. I think I would be different if ANY of my past was changed, maybe for better, maybe for worse.
I was not out "cruising" the theraputic boarding schools to see where I could find someone to treat me badly. But since I was put into the situation, OBVIOUSLY MISTREATED, and now grown up, I can say with integrity that going through that hard time has been a continuing education into my adult years. Not that I asked for it.
I still think about MMS and cry. I still have so many painful memories. I'm sure lots of you out there do too. And I hope you know that by sharing my personal story and opinion, I am not attacking yours.
I try to be an empathetic person. I try not to nitpick but to understand where others are coming from. Even when I disagree.
I would appreciate that if you have a future comment for me, that you act respectfully and are no longer condescending. Thanks.
I'm making lemonade out of my lemons.
lablah:
"Maybe I will go cruise the domestic violence courts and turn in my man for one who is going to ' make me strong'."
I think it quite funny that some one who doesn't even identify themselves would write the above statement. Attacking past students of MMS is pointless to our mission...to increase awareness of the practices at MMS, to find resolutions and to make them better. In my own opinion, so long as Mercer runs the school it will be fucked up. But why the fuck would I attack Kerry and make some bullshit statement to further demean her. "Cruising the domestic violence courts"....Damn. That's just mean. Kerry has guts to come out and speak her mind. My hate towards MMS runs quite deep, but that does not mean that it's cool to attack someone who disagrees with me. I did leave that place with a ton of life-long friends...let's try to keep that in mind amongst all the shit flinging back and forth. In addition, if you want people to share their experiences and help out in "the cause" don't piss them off.
Kerrybear:
Thanks for the support. And to make it clear, I think MMS was hell. I was badly treated like all of you and I hated the place.
Anonymous:
spent my first 1 1/2 years hating the school. Everything was controlled, there was no music, a strict food plan, hard work crews, and really odd rules. I never saw John and rarely saw Colleen. However, Since February 2006, the school has changed completely. We have now food plan, we make our own decisions regarding most things, we only have mandatory group 5 nights a week, and we go on trips almost every week. This is much different than the first 18 months I was there. Also, John comes every day of the weekend, and Colleen every day of the week. We are able to change things through proposals, John is trying to find a way to have music now, work crew is limited, and freetime is the most I have ever seen. I know that when some of you were there it was awful- my first 18 months sucked. But having graduated in August this year, and fully considering my stay, I would suggest that rather than bashing on MMS, try to do something productive with your anger. Closing down this school is not the right thing to do anymore, and anyone who tries to close it now will end up hurting more people than helping. Rather than being a rule-based community as we were before, the school has become highly focused on self-regulation and girls learning how to handle their lives without interventions or extreme consequences like before.
My heart truly goes out to all that had a horrible 2 years, but just as you most likely have changed since then, so has the school. Please think of this next time you post.
Much love to all, and I hope you find your peace again.
Anonymous:
I almost died because of the foolish and neglectful judgements of John. I in no way see that school as changed. Because of some of the descisions by some of the staff there, my life will physically never be the same. Mentally, I'm glad that I had the support I did by some and I have built a strong support network at home or I don't know where I would be.
Does any one wonder why the numbers there are slowly dwindling down?
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