Confesed liar, huh? Oh, I said that I lied? In fact, I challenged you to find one thing that I've posted that isn't true. So far, you haven't bothered to try.
Gotta love how the first reaction, when confronted with criticism of the school, from people who support Hyde is to attack that person's integrity. I told you before, kid, I don't lie. Calling me dishonest isn't helping you and only proves my point."
Now your earlier quote, where you said (in connection with your time at Hyde):
Withholding one's opinions about the school in that setting isn't duplicitous, it's survival.
Ignoring the continued verbal assualts like the diminutive use of the work "kid"....first let me commend you once again on the lawyerly change of topic.
You might have addressed the fact that you, a trained lawyer, didn't have the presence of mind to ask Hyde in what capacity they were calling and request it to be private.
Nope, change the topic time (again). Ok, fine, I'll go there.
Here's the deal Lars. You may have graduated, but whether you earned it is another thing all together. If you lied by omission day in and day out (hard to imagine at your depth of "hate" as you say that it wasn't comission as well, but that's really a lawyerly distinction right) how does that make you anything other than a confessed liar?
That said, we do seem to be getting closer to the issue, so I am heartened. You see, Lars my friend, you were never at Hyde, because the real Hyde experience only begins when you begin telling the the truth. If you faked your way through it, then of course you never got it.
You can call it survival, but I saw little girls there with a lot more courage than you will ever have step up to the plate and make the decision that no matter what else, they were going to trust the process and tell the truth. And keep telling the truth, even if it meant they went on 2/4, had to leave the school, go out on their own, join the military, do whatever it took.
These were little girls, Lars. And plenty of boys too.
Now, from a psychological perspective, it bears noting that when a family system is threatened, children especially will perceive that threat as a threat to their survival itself.
I say this noting that you don't appear angy at your parents talking with Hyde, just that Hyde talked with your parents (again, leaving us without any facts of how that conversation actually occurred....including the possibility that your parents initiated the discussion about your posts). But I digress from your primary tangent.
The fact of the matter is, your actual survival did not depend on telling lies, only your perceived survival. You may not want to hear this, but for those people reporting good experiences at Hyde, many (if not most) will say that a critical part of their process was getting honest. That's where the growth started, that's where changes in the family system started, and for some, that's where their life started.
Lars, there were no locks on the doors and you could have left at any time. You chose to lie to maintain your (dis)comfort level and you look like you are living in that place still today, otherwise, this board would be irrelevant to you.
Safe to say that no one will ever mistake you for Horatio Alger, nor Holden Caulfield for that matter. Just a scared little boy who chose to lie, again and again and again.
Lars, your post challenged me to find something you've posted that wasn't true. IMHO, your accusation that Hyde doesn't respect privacy was misleading to the point of deception. Denying that your parents relationship with Hyde preceded yours, more of the same. But you actually told the truth about the basis on which I made my statement that you are a confessed liar....that is, however you want to frame it, you admitted faking your way through Hyde.
What you did at Hyde wasn't just a lie then, Lars, it was a damn shame.
Anyway, I will probably not respond to any of your posts for a while if ever. I think I get you enough for this not to be a good use of my time.
You are a coward.
Happy Easter,
Sybergal "86
