I have no memory of girls being implicated simply on looks. I remember one woman who was drop-dead-gorgeous, and was never [that I remember] yelled at in a rap for flirting.
On the topic of sexual abuse, I do remember being told I was lying, because I could not manifest the requisite tears. There was one staffer [carolyn wolf] who repeatedly yelled at me in raps saying I want it. When she'd yell those horrible things, I'd just shut down emotionally. I would not yell back. I would not cry. I would sit there immobile. While living in an abusive household, I learned how to just shut down. That skill came in handy at RMA. I could simply disengage my self from the moment.
At the same time, I remember one rap, where the whole room was yelling at me, and I just got up and left the room. I was put on a table restriction. What sucked about being on a full-time or table restriction was that you were the guaranteed target for the rap. Guess, I was not thinking clearly about the consequences when I left the rap -- must have happened early in my stay.
After a few months at RMA, I discovered that if I could start the rap off indicting someone else, chances were that I'd not get indicted. The trick was to yell the loudest at someone in the beginning. Thankfully, I have a loud voice. I was one of the look good students. I do not think that there was any issue that people try to indict me with on a regular basis. I think it was because, once indicted I'd try two strategies. First, I'd try to flip it on the person who indicted me, or move it over to someone else. If that did not work, with out even thinking about I'd disassociate myself from the room, and the people yelling. I can think of only two times that I really fell apart in a rap or workshop. In many ways it would have been better for me, if I could have manifested the requisite tears. I always thought that the students who could cry on the drop of a dime had it much better. I was secretly jealous, but at the same time those were the students who I'd indict. Get a kid crying, and if they were a good crier [i.e. for a long time] then I'd never have to worry about being attacked. Was I selfish? You bet. But I was also young and trying my best to survive. I am wondering where the others who thought that the best defense was a strong offense?