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Anyone grateful for the time at Spring Creek Lodge?
Anonymous:
You can't make someone quit using drugs, they have to WANT to quit. If you want him locked up somewhere, then I guess leave him at SCL, or better yet, Jail! He is not a child, you can't pick his friends for him. He needs to be accountable for his own decisions. Are they going to want to control what he does, who he sees when he is 20? 30? 40? Sometimes, you just have to let people make their mistakes and learn from them.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-12-20 10:15:00, Anonymous wrote:
"Is there such a place where they keep him but have family therapy on top of the drug issues
so he can re bond with his family. I tried looking but I am having a hard time finding anything?"
--- End quote ---
Yea, its called inpatient rehabilitation treatment center. The same places that offer outpatient, usually offer inpatient. I had a very close friend who went through outpatient substance abuse treatment, continued in school, graduated, and is on to college. It does work, if the individual wants it to work. What makes you think your friend wouldn't succeed in outpatient treatment? Quit thinking for him and his family - let him think for himself.
Anonymous:
--- Quote ---On 2005-12-20 10:24:00, Anonymous wrote:
"You can't make someone quit using drugs, they have to WANT to quit. If you want him locked up somewhere, then I guess leave him at SCL, or better yet, Jail! He is not a child, you can't pick his friends for him. He needs to be accountable for his own decisions. Are they going to want to control what he does, who he sees when he is 20? 30? 40? Sometimes, you just have to let people make their mistakes and learn from them. "
--- End quote ---
FIRST OF ALL AGAIN I AM NOT THE ONE WHO LOCKED HIM UP!!! SECONDLY EVERYONE MATURES AT A DIFFERENT RATE HE MAY BE 17 BUT HE HAS A LOT TO LEARN. WE SHOULD HELP OUR KIDS UNTIL THEY ARE READY. ARE YOU TELLING ME IF YOU HAVE KIDS? WHEN THEY ARE 18 IF THEY ARE READY OR NOT THEY ARE TO LEAVE YOUR HOUSE WITH YOU SAYING GOOD LUCK SINK OR SWIM. I THINK THAT IS SOOOO WRONG. MY KIDS CAN STAY HOME UNTIL THEY HAVE THE SKILLS AND JOB IT TAKES AS LONG AS THEY ARE RESPONSIBLE. MOST KIDS GRADUATE AT 18 AND ARE A FAR WAY FROM READY TO GO MAKE IT ON THERE OWN. IT SOUNDS LIKE TO ME YOU ARE A KID YOURSELF. SEEING YOU USED THE PHRASE CONTROL HIM. IT IS NOT CONTROL IT IS PARENTING. YOU NEVER STOP BEING A PARENT. YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO PICK THERE FRIENDS BUT YOU SHOULD TRY YOUR BEST TO STEER THEM IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION.
PART OF ME ALSO BELIEVES HE SHOULD BE SENT OUT ON HIS OWN TO LEARN BUT I CAN ALSO SEE A PARENTS POINT OF VIEW. YOU CAN JUST SEND HIM ON HIS WAY AND SAY WELL WHEN YOU DECIDE TO QUIT DOING DRUGS LET ME KNOW. THAT IS THE KIDS THAT END UP DEAD!! BECAUSE NOBODY CARED ENOUGH TO HELP.
Anonymous:
It sounds like they should have been trying to help him long before now - drug problems don't happen overnight, and usually not when the kid is 17/18 years old.
Anonymous:
First, unlock you caps. Its annoying and very difficult to read.
Second, I have kids. Yes, they can stay home after they turn 18 but it is NOT my job to dictate what he/she should or shouldn't do with their lives. Both of mine are over 18 and some of the years leading up to that milestone were pretty scary but trying to force them to adopt my POV is a waste of time. There is a reason why kids move out. There is a reason why they become a little nuts for a while. Its called cutting the apron strings, or finding their own autonomy. There is an incredibly fine line between parenting and control nowadays. Quite scary if you ask me. Most kids go through some sort of insane period for a while and most of them grow out of in on their own (even if they do scare the shit out of their parents while going thru said period). Parents need to stop trying to create these little carbon copies of themselves, or Stepford kids that adhere to the perceived 'norm'.
Of course I'll never stop being a parent, but I know where my limitations are and should be.
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