the thing about select cruelty is that you always know (as teh 'special one') is that you can fall victim to that cruelty... so, while yes, I think most of us are capable of being assholes and also very loving--- John is very rigid and very egotistical, so much so that I think that it gets in the way of being a truly loving being and creates a power imbalance among those he loves. That's not love- that's something else...
He's a dick, period.
Hi Colleen! :wave: