Ya know folks, parents make mistakes - you all talk about changing things, wanting to make a difference so other kids don't end up in horrific places, by bashing parents, ganging up on them, not allowing them to justify their feelings of sadness, fear, etc. is not going to accomplish your mission it gives you all less verasity and eventually it will be the few of you on this board, and no one will pay attention at all. If that is what your goal is then keep on doing it.
Grow up folks! Listen in my work whether I agree with a parent or not for their choices it not my place to say even when asked, I inform them of alternatives, what is out there, how to get accurate information, and make the best choices, we cannot tell parents what is best for their children or they are wrong.
These people turn to Ed Consultants of which I am researching - credentials are very scary - one I spoke to has an MBA? What does this have to do with Children/Adolescents, Education, Mental Health, DD, or Substance Abuse Issues? I am very concerned that their are more of these out there, with no actual knowledge other than how to get on a plane, get fed a good meal, brought on a PR tour, help parents apply for loans when needed, and have a rolodex of transports. These are the people that you need to focus your efforts on as well as the bad programs, until that happens and they are stopped, the parents will continue to send their children. For whatever reason when they turn to others for help they are feeling desperate it is not for you or me to dispute their feelings or to say they are not justified, if you want to play a role and make a difference then find a way to do it where people will pay attention and not think you are all nuts - I am not convinced that you are nuts - I feel you are passionate and committed to this cause, but need a more unified and convincing way to be taken seriously.
Be mad at me if you wish - this is my opinion and I know this from experience myself.
Andrea